(Closed) Brother of the Groom (kind of long, needed to vent!)

posted 7 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
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  • Wedding: April 2012

I had/have a kind of similar issue with my FH little sister (she’s older than me, but younger than him) and mom, they threw a fit when they heard about our original date so we had to change it to make the little princess (his sister) happy…uhg…anyways his family treated me really well and then we got engaged, and his mom said to my FH “I could never see you being married”…uhg…. His mom gets really excited asking me stuff about the wedding and then the two (mom and daughter) talk about it critique it make fun of it and the conversation ends…UHG!!!

I’m basically rolling with the punches, I tend to be really caddy though so I have to watch what I say and I bite my tongue a lot when I’m around them.  I’ve expressed to my FH everything I feel and he says I’m being ridiculous and its nothing like that, its “just the way they are” (I hate that saying)

Maybe confront the brother personally ask him out to lunch or dinner say you to don’t spend enough time together, maybe you can clear up whatever is going on in his head.  He should definitely still be in the party, we opted to not have our family in the parties because I don’t want to recognize his sister with her behavior and I have two older brothers.  He is going to be family so maybe try and get into his head, spend some quality time with him and make sure he knows you aren’t evil.  He might see you as stealing his brother away from him.  The family does sound genuinely excited about your upcoming wedding, maybe try and include the family when doing the whole dress thing décor etc.

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I think alot of the attacks are probaly coming because of your grooms age. the family prob still sees him as the baby therefore feeling like they can kinda push him around or have more say than they really should have. you need to have a sit down with his brother while you FH is there and express how you feel and where u want to go with the relationship, therefore you are free from balme and have cleared the air. same for the mom.

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