(Closed) Brothers be groomsmen??

posted 6 years ago in Etiquette
  • poll: Should my brothers be groosmen?
    Yes : (3 votes)
    23 %
    No, give them readers or other ways to be involved : (10 votes)
    77 %
    Other, please explain below : (0 votes)
  • Post # 3
    Member
    89 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    I would stick with your decision because you dont want it to seem that you werent sure…but most definitely find an important role for each of them so they can still be a part of things

    Post # 4
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    1237 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2012

    I think it would be fine to have them play other parts in the wedding!

    I have 4 brothers but none of them know FI well and he already had 6 guys he wanted to ask and neither of us wanted 10 groomsmen. At this point, one of my brothers will be a reader and one will escort my mom. Not sure about the other two but I know that one of them won’t want to be involved because he’s just not into weddings

    Post # 7
    Member
    1628 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: July 2012

    @lanipapillon:  Just because his wife asked you does not mean you have to ask your brothers. That said, if that experience made you realize how special it is and made you WANT your brothers as groomsmen, then call them up, say you didn’t realize how incredibly special and (as you said) ‘part of the family’ it made you feel, and now you realize how much you want them there as groomsmen. I’m sure they’ll be very touched. OR, tell them precisely how you want them involved and still say how you realized it…being upfront is best and, honestly, your true reason for the change of heart is a quite touching and beautiful one so I’d use it!

    Post # 8
    Member
    83 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: December 1969

    I would stick with your decision but maybe ask them to serve in another way at the wedding.  Maybe they could be ushers, or do readings.  Or since (I’m assuming) your dad will be walking you in, they could walk your mother in. 

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