- 5 years ago
- Wedding: April 2013
Hey there, (sorry this is so long…)
I found some other similar boards but i figured if I could get some help specific to my situation, it would be much appreciated.
My Dad passed away when I was 16. It’ll be almost 8 years when we get married and it’d been really hard thinking about parts of the wedding without feeling sad and missing my dad so much. I am trying to pay tribute to him as much as I can, while keeping it somewhat light. My fiance’s family is huge and most of the guests from his side are going to have no idea, and that’s part of why we are doing some of what we are doing.
On our invitations we did include “my stepdad, on behalf of, my dad” so that right off the bat, our guests are aware.
I am planning to walk down the aisle alone. Because i want my dad to walk with me. I don’t want anyone taking his place. I’m also putting his picture into my bouquet.
At the reception, my mother suggested that my brother make a small speech sort of on behalf of my dad, which was really sweet. At the end of the speech, I suggested, my brother ask me to dance. So i will dance with my brother while a slideshow of pictures of my dad, and probably myself, play in the background.
Ideally, we want this sort of at the beginning of the night – before the slideshow for my FI and me but obviously after OUR first dance. Because we want it to be so early on in the night, I was thinking that we would have our first dance right after our entrance and the receiving line. Then we would have dinner. My brother could be the first one to make a speech, I would dance with him, and then we could have the slideshow of us. That way we end the sadness, with a happy slideshow and we can move on. Everyone gets the picture… and we get to pay some tribute to my dad. It’s a pretty big deal that he won’t be there.
I’m just curious about what you ladies think about the flow?
And I need suggestions for a brother/sister dance?
Anyone else paying tributes to parents who are no longer with us?