Post # 1
Until today I was unaware at how oblivious my fiance is to the whole wedding planning. After he woke up this morning I asked him to call his aunt whom we were offered help from for flowers. I needed to know the plan about who was doing what,what we were even doing and how much it would cost. My wedding is in May and although it sounds far away to him I need to have everything in order at least in my brain so I can sleep.Anyways, after asking him to call he told me why dont I just write it in her Christmas card asking her to give us a call! Although I thought that was such an immatrue out for him, I enhaled and then kindly responded explaining that would be rude because she offered to help US. Since SHE offered it is not left up to her to contact us, we must call her and jump on her kindness and show SOME effort on our end. He then proceeded to ignore me and flip on sportscenter. So….being me, I grabbed his phone dialed the number and handed it to him and said ” it’s ringing.” His eyebrows furred up ,he was very irrate grabbed the phone and much to his surprise she didnt pick up. THEN he glanced over at me and told me that I can be a bridezilla to everyone else but HIM and he’s not going to put up with it. He continued to say how ridicuous it is that I want to start planning the flowers now and how controlling that is blah blah blah.
Needless to say I am now in our room venting to my poor keyboard so I don’t go out there and throw the brownies on his head that I made for him last night. Thank you. I needed this.Why do i still want to dump the brownies though?
Post # 3
@melissa5k: Send them to me, they look yummy! Men can be such men sometimes!
Post # 4
Haha don’t dump the brownies, go back out and tell him if he doesn’t help you plan this wedding you’re gonna eat brownies every goddamn day between here and there and you’re gonna be massive for the wedding. Hahaha!
Ah no seriously, I’d be so mad at that man. Although he probably really didn’t expect your trick with the phone, and I know my fella would be livid if I dropped that on him like that. He hates being put on the spot.
Time to back track a bit. Maybe show him a wee list of all the things that *have* to be done in order to have a reasonable wedding. Then explain to him that the earlier you get some of these things sorted, the more realistic and small your budget can be.
And the more reasonable and calm you can be! He obviously does want a nice calm fiancee, so maybe explain to him that it’s just the type of person you are, that you do need to know things are getting done/crossed off the list to not get stressed about them.
Post # 5
And maybe remind him that this is certainly going to be the most expensive day of your lives, and as such, it should be carefully planned.
And tell him he’ll be wearing a brownie hat if he ever utters the words Bridezilla or Controlling to you again. Too far!!
Post # 6
grrr, i totally feel your pain! I feel like my FH is the exact same. I give him minimal tasks, and he STILL refuses to do them. It makes me feel like he doesn’t care about the wedding, and makes me doubt he even wants to get married! I hate it. Maybe that’s why you feel like you want to dump the brownies on his head?
If it was me, I’d go get the whole container of brownies and take it into the bathroom, run a bath and eat brownies in the tub – with the door locked. I might even blast some wicked girly music really loud.
Post # 7
I’m assuming you’ve met this aunt at least once? Maybe your best bet would be to ring her yourself. something along the lines of,
‘Hi Mrs.X, this is Melissa, I got your number from SillyBrownieHeadMan. I hope you’re all keeping well there, blah blah (amt of blah depending on how well you know her, obv). I just wondered if you were free to talk about flowers, or if we could arrange to meet up sometime soon to talk about it? I know it’s a little early, but I think it’d be no harm to get the ball rolling so that we know what we’re doing blah blah…’
Post # 8
Umm, those look like they might be the most delicious brownies on the planet!
Post # 9
Ohmygod, those look so good!
Just call the aunt yourself. He’s being a boy, they can’t seem to help it.
Post # 10
This isn’t any help, but those browning looks delectable!!!
Post # 11
@aunt pol:I LOVE YOU!!! you made me laugh and I REALLY appreciate everything you said…Realy.
Post # 12
@melissa5k:THANK YOU EVERYONE FOR THE COMMENTS> THIS IS SO AWESOME TO HAVE SUPPORT AND GOOD CHEER!!!
Post # 13
Just xplain to him that the more you can get done now the less stressed out you will be the closer you get. He needs to really understand that concept generally so that you dont have to repeat every time you want to cross something off your wedding checklist that he feels is too early for