Post # 1
Ah, first post!
My SO really, really, really wants to go ring browsing today or tomorrow. I think it’s a good idea, because I’d like to see how things actually look on my hand, which gold I prefer, and we need to find out my ring size. He would also like to see moissanite in person, though I’m not sure if all stores carry that?
But on the other hand, I feel like it’s also not such a good idea. I know he’s been wanting to get something custom made, not from some mall store, which is where we would be going. I also know he doesn’t have the money at the moment to just up and buy a ring if we find one I love.
Is it rude/awkward/weird to go into a store, browse around and try things on, without any intention to make a purchase? I feel like a sales person would think I was wasting their time… which, I suppose, I kind of would be. My SO thinks it’s completely fine and not weird or annoying at all.
Is this a normal thing to do? Should we just hold off for a while until he has the amount in his head that he intends to spend on a ring, just in case I do find something I like and he randomly changes his mind against a custom design? Or should we just not go at all? Ooorrrr should I stop worrying about bothering the sales people and just shut up and try on shinies to my heart’s content?
Post # 3
We did it, I don’t think jewelry stores mind at all because how do they know that you won’t come back and spend money there? Just say you are looking around and seeing what type of rings you like and they’ll be very helpful.
Post # 4
Try on rings and enjoy! It is good practice for the salespeople; the more interaction they have with customers the better they will become at helping people find what they want. So don’t feel you are wasting their time. You never know – you may find the perfect ring in a mall store. I bought both of my rings (original and upgrade) at a mall and was very happy with both. Besides, trying on diamonds is SO much fun!
Post # 5
Oh no, it’s totally normal and I think some jewlers expect it. You need to try on rings just as much as you need to try on dresses. Just looking online is not the same as going to a store and trying it on. Nerd and I will be looking soon.
Post # 6
try as many as u can to get the best idea of what you want
Post # 7
Quite acceptable and expected, so enjoy the moment and don’t worry about feeling pressured to make a purchase.
Have you discussed whether he wants to know exactly what you want, or is just getting a general idea for what you like and what sizes will look like on your hand? My SO wants to make the final call on what he’ll give me, but we both wanted to see some together, in person, and it was wonderful fun, even with no expectations of leaving the store with a ring immediately. 🙂
Post # 8
- Wedding: January 2013 - Harbourfront Grand Hall
@Tralalaubee: FI and I searched online because there was a better availability and options to compare specs.
Post # 9
Don’t worry about the store. Sure, they’de like you to buy, but you have to figure out what you like…by looking at a lot of rings. Just have fun, and be very specific with what you like to your BF.
Post # 10
I felt the exact same way as you. Oh my god, are they even going to deal with us if we’re not going to buy?
Turns out, they’re all very happy with helping. If they do a good enough job, you may be back!
Post # 11
Ever heard the advice of: Shop around? People go to 5 different stores and try on many, many different rings before deciding to actually buy one. Just like you would with prom dresses or wedding dresses or cars or houses or puppies!
Go, have fun, figure out what you like and what you don’t like. That’s what a store is for! If you were only going in to actually buy one then you’d go online.
Post # 12
@MrsCVsomeday: I think he’s looking for a general idea to inspire him, though he’s pretty heavily implied that he has his own ideas in mind already, just a matter if I’d approve, I guess.
I have very small hands with little french fry fingers, so I can imagine a ring easily looking too big and overwhelming. That’s my main concern. He seems kind of paranoid about the other details – prong or bezel (I love that he knows what these things are now, haha), which shape, clarity, low vs high setting, etc.
I think he’s looked online so much that his brain is exploding. “What’s this? 4 C’s? What is a moissanite? White sapphire? But how is the sparkle different? Wait, wait – what’s a heart and arrow? How is this diamond any better than this one here? They can do half a bezel?”
We’re looking tomorrow, so here’s hoping we don’t annoy anyone, though you all make me feel a lot better about it. 🙂
Post # 13
The store we went to for browsing was awesome. The lady who helped us was so helpful in helping me narrow down what worked for me and what I liked best. Even though she knew we weren’t going to buy that day, she helped us just as much as if we were. FI ended up getting my ring from them 🙂
Post # 14
Even if you think there’s no chance of buying their ring, you’re still worth their time just in case you happen to fall in love with one and end up with it. Not to mention, if you have a great experience, you’re probably more likely to buy other jewellery from there, and if you have a crappy one you may never go back. Plus, I’m sure most of tr time the shop assistants would like a chance to help someone have fun trying in rings, instead of being bored!
Post # 15
My SO and I have been to the same store 4 times, the sales clerk knows us and pulls the ring we like without us asking (we are comparing this particular ring to others). I think they understand it is a mjor purchase. Have fun!
Post # 16
Man if I could even count the number of stores my FI and I went browsing through – some more than once! We’ve been together for seven years now, and probably started looking at engagement rings after about a year and a half. I never felt awkward, or pressured, while looking at rings. Sometimes the sales people weren’t super nice once they figured out that we were just “kicking tires” but that didn’t really bother me either.
Go, browse, try stuff on, and get a good idea of what you like and what things cost. That will give your SO some background to start planning and budgeting and he’ll also know when he purchases something that you’ll actually like it! Have fun!