Post # 1
We have fully decided on having our ceremony begin at 10:30AM on May 24, 2014. 🙂 That means that we will have roughly forty-five minutes for pictures, cocoa/coffee/beverages before the reception begins. I am a bit worried, however.
My FI wants to do a bouquet and garter toss (from a balcony LOL) but we are unsure if we should have dancing. His mom would definitely dance with him, but my dad would rather crawl under a rock and croak before he danced with me. (Not that he doesn’t love me…just my family…doesn’t do anything like that. They are a bit…redneck. -cringes-)
Not many family members of mine are coming (and it is going to be a thirty-six-person wedding TOPS) and the ones that will /will not/ dance.
However, some of my friends would dance. And FMIL said her and FFIL would dance as well. But there aren’t going to be many peple, we aren’t having a parents’ dance, and would really only have OUR first dance. Is it worth it to have an iPod going in the background?
Let me also note that this WILL be outdoors, near a lake, and under a huge carport-like thing.
As a side note, we WILL be having a seated meal (well, somewhat of a buffet but not completely) and we also will indeed be having alcohol. We expect the whole thing to be over around 3.
We are having a big cookout the day we get back into the states from the honeymoon for hundreds of people (hopefully) that didn’t get to come to the wedding itself. (Our venue is teeny, and the chapel only holds 36.)
I would really love some advice. 🙂
If you do recommend dancing, what sort of reception timeline would you recommend, as well?
Post # 3
Worried about your picture time.We had twice as much time and it still wasn’t enough
Post # 4
@Overwhelmed: Do YOU want to dance?
If not, I recommend some upbeat music in the background, maybe something in the jazz genre like Django Reinhardt, Louis Armstrong? My neighborhood association hosts a jazz brunch outdoors with a live band and it’s really nice! People don’t dance, but there’s a happy atmosphere, lots of mingling, which I could see really working for a wedding reception.
I can imagine the backyard BBQ as being a really fun time to dance because there are more people!
Post # 5
None of the people we know are big on pictures, sadly. =/ And there will be tons of time for FI and I to take pictures afterward/all the rest of the day. 😀
It really…I dunno. It doesn’t seem like the people I know are going to have a good time no matter what I do LOL. They aren’t very social at all. Luckily our friends and his family are a lot better with all of that.
I hadn’t thought of that, but it does sound really nice. I was also looking at hiring a string quartet. What is an opinion on that?
I also thought about the backyard BBQ being a GREAT time to dance because so many people will be there. I am really just excited. 😀
Post # 6
And ever since you asked if I wanted to dance, that made it a big eye-opener.
I DEFINITELY want to dance. And I definitely at LEAST want my first-dance with my new hubbylove. 😀
So now I have possibly found a VERY local string duo/trio that sounds very reasonably priced.
I appreciate you being so blunt, honestly.
So seems like there will indeed be at least the option to dance, even if no one partakes in it. That wouldn’t be my problem then!! 😀
Post # 7
@Overwhelmed: Sounds awesome! Don’t lose yourself in the process – it’s SO easy to focus on the “challenging” guests you have to invite, but that’s a mistake. It’s your wedding, you set the tone and make it a day you will love. 🙂
Post # 8
If you really want to dance – go for it! Just make sure it doesn’t matter to you if others aren’t dancing. Your time for a wedding is tricky when it comes to dancing. I recently went to a fantastic brunch reception and the bride desperately wanted dancing. She had a great DJ and a good space – but barely anyone danced, because it was just too early for most people. I LOVE to dance, so FI and I had a blast on the dance floor and we didn’t give a hoot that it was an empty floor 😛 I say… if you want to dance, dance!
Post # 9
@MsMonkey: That does make sense. I don’t want anyone to feel pressured to dance, so I think it really will be a perfect atmosphere. I really don’t think we will go with a DJ just so people won’t feel obligated to dance. And I much prefer live music anyway.
I can totally picture me and my best girlfriend being on an empty dancefloor dancing our hearts out LOL.
@kenziemt: It really is far too easy to lose myself in all of this! I am super excited for it, but sometimes people drive me up a wall with all of their opinions, “advice,” criticism, and downright hatefulness. I would LOVE to invite all couple-hundred people we know, but dang…they aren’t buying!
So therefore…kegs and hotdogs/hamburgers all around at the party. THEN they can celebrate with us.
Because I will definitely be wearing my tiara at the party. -giggles-
Post # 10
I personally wouldn’t spend the extra money to hire a DJ, I highly doubt at a morning wedding and brunch there will be people who want to get up and dance. I would most definitely do a first dance with your hubby if you want, and parent dances if they’re up for it. I just wouldn’t expect anyone else to do it. I’m a wedding photographer, and I photograph weddings of ALL sizes and types. I’ve never had a morning wedding have dancing. Even those who had a DJ and assumed their guests would dance, they didn’t.
Because you’ve got just 36 people, and you said they aren’t super social I’d just have a low-key event and not put too much pressure on yourself to make sure they’re having fun. If anything, I’d put the money into having a cornhole set, maybe some horseshoes, other fun outdoor games.
Post # 11
@Overwhelmed: We’re planning a brunch reception too. As far as timeline, we have scheduled first look photos, then our ceremony will be at 11:30, we’re allowing an hour for family and group photos then brunch at 12:30 and will probably wind things up around 4pm if not a bit sooner. We will have between 40 and 50 guests. As far as music, we’re going to have instrumental music as background music and not planning on having dancing although people certainly can if they want to! 🙂 We’re going to have a photobooth so that should be entertainment enough.
I think your cookout sounds like the time to have the dancing!!
Post # 13
None of my family members except my dad are coming to the wedding so I think it would be a bit…awkward to have him dance with his mom and me dance with no one. =( I do wish my dad would though. =( And I don’t feel comfortable dancing my my FI’s step-dad.
And I have thought of a photobooth but gosh they are super expensive around here it seems! Especially if I want to have a string quartet/etc. at the reception.
Post # 14
I found a lady who is a professional violinist who has agreed to play for the full ceremony and three hour reception for like, less than 100 an hour! 😀 -dances around-
Post # 15
@Overwhelmed: We’re having a brunch reception outside as well, and you bet your booty we’ll have dancing! A friend has offered to DJ for us, so he’s just bringing his laptop and we’re renting speakers…so nothing too extreme but we wanted to be able to dance regardless of the time of day!
Post # 16
Do YOU want to dance?
If YOU want to dance, then by golly, DANCE!