- 7 years ago
- Wedding: April 2011
I’m learning more and more that my FI and I don’t see..eye to eye on things..:( at least when it comes to this wedding planning stuff….
I’m more complicated/comlex, while he’s more into keeping things simple. Maybe K.I.S.S. thought is a good way to have things, but it seems I’m just more about details than he is. In part, I take it could be b/c I’m a woman and he’s a man….
but other than that, I’m finding that just about everything about the wedding planning we are not exactly seeing the same…
While, FI’s mother is marrying us…(nice touch I think)…if FI had his way, he probably would’ve had his mom marry us in his parents living room (as his mom is a JP and has done weddings at her house) and not have all the people, decor or anything.
I on the other hand, while I’m not AS high maintence in how I dress/appear, how I deal with details is much more complex. I am trying to make our weddnig more fun rather than the ‘plan ole’ plain ole” of a traditional wedding. Yes, certain aspects I do think should be done as they always have, but why not with a twist?
- Have BM’s…yes! Though why not let them have a dress they can style themselves and even wear again if they want.
- Have a cake…yes! Though why not have a small one to cut and serve cupcakes to the guests.
- Have invites/rsvps….yes! Though why not DIY them from scratch and add some fun in the rsvps by putting in some ‘mad lib’ portions.
- Have flowers…yes! Though why not keep them to a minimum and keep them to a single bloom (like tulips!) and even add beaded tulips to at least the bridal bouquet….
We are to get married in a local nice hotel and while it’s ‘different’ to have the ceremony/reception in the same room…that’s what we are probably doing. In this case though I have to say, it’s not b/c I want it for the different factor, but it costs less to have in the same room, than in 2 seperate rooms.
I feel like everytime I want to add an aspect that is a little less than 100% tradition, I get shot down for the most part by family and my FI. Seeing all these things on the wedding blogs and in magazines is so fun b/c it’s not typical. Also, obviously these things are being done at weddings nowadays and it’s not just a random idea….it’s in blogs and magazines. Just b/c it may not be done in the particular region or city or town you live in, doesn’t make it wrong…right? I mean, I get it that some things can be a bit much, but the details I’m talking about are pretty normal like. I am not going ‘Lady Gaga’ and wearing a meat dress for my big day or anything like that…..just having a little fun…not going ‘crazy’….
Though I feel like my family/FI does feel like I’ve grown 8 heads when I try to discuss my ideas… It’s SO disheartening! 🙁
I personally (no offense to anyone out there!) just don’t want a cookie cutter wedding that doesn’t have personality b/c I see that as boring.
My dress, is more sophisticated, but I’d like to add colored shoes, if I can. Our photographer, has a lot of classic elements about her work, but she also has a bit of flair/artistry to her work as well.
Maybe I want fun/whimsy/trendy…..though I just feel that if I go w. too much traditional that it’s going to be boring… since my FI and I aren’t the ‘classic/traditional/preppy’ type people, I thought it’d be nice to add in some fun….
but it seems it’s turning out to be the opposite…:(