Post # 1
My parents are being very generous in giving us a decent amount of money for our wedding. They told us we could use it how we wanted to. I’ve always thought that spending so much on one day is silly and I’d rather splurge on a nice honeymoon or house. Ideally, we’d like to keep it around 12k. I think we could have a very nice brunch wedding for this amount in our home town. However, I’ve been thinking about having a “destination” wedding of sorts, in Arizona, where my dad’s family is from. I have a lot of great childhood memories there and have much more of a connection with my family there. The downside is that it would mean a fancy desert ranch wedding, which would be lovely and fun, but would probably cost much more than 15k, or a wedding at the desert museum there, which might be harder to plan and probably would require a wedding planner. I can’t decide if we should just have a simple wedding at home or go ahead and splurge. Is anyone else having a hard time deciding on how much you are willing to spend?
Post # 3
It depends on what you think you would really like. Do you have the money to spend more and make it a bigger wedding? If not, then I think your choice is made for you :/
Post # 4
My Fiance and I kinda had the same thing, either have a semi destination wedding in Las Vegas, or have a smaller wedding locally. We ended up deciding on a smaller wedding because we took most of the money we had and used it to put a downpayment on our first house. Our reasoning was that the wedding is just 1 day, the house is something we’ll enjoy for years. Also, the further the wedding, the harder it will be to DIY decorations, flowers, etc. (depending on what, if any, things you decide to DIY), which was a major deciding factor for us. Not to mention the extra expense for travel to do tastings, measure tables, etc.
Post # 5
If I were you, I would have the smaller weddin locally and save the money for something more important. But it depends on you and what you want. Would you be happy with a smaller wedding (I think 12000 dollars is a nice chunk of change to have a nice wedding if you play your cards right).
I did have some trouble figuring out my budget. I started out small and wondered if that would do and when it didn’t, I increased it until I came to a number that would give me what I wanted but not break me financially. I still have a small budget but I am at the top of my budget which is not what I wanted but I am getting the wedding I want so it works out.
Post # 6
We had a similar dilemma. My parents gave us a generous amount of money and said we can use it for whatever. Ultimately, I felt guilty using money they had earmarked for the wedding for anything other than the wedding, plus I couldn’t imagine not getting married in front of my family and friends. We opted to have a formal, huge wedding, and I’m really excited.
Post # 7
Thank you, all! I think we are going to keep our wedding local. It makes sense for us and hopefully enough of my family will be able to travel to the wedding. I’m still not sure how “budget bride” I want to be. We could have it at a nice restaurant that would probably be no more than 7k for food/alcohol etc or self-cater at a public venue, but then have to deal with renting linens, china, hiring servers so I’m not sure if that’s worth the trouble. Thanks for your input!