We are getting married in Sonoma, so it’s pricey but I think all of the Bay Area is. Also, there are limited vendors, if you are more in the SF area, there are probably way more options for you.
Now I know you can do things for much cheaper. Our budget was the same regardless of guest count, luckily we had most of this money saved and our parents generously gave us some money as well, we decided to do something very nice for a smaller guest list.
# of Guests: 70
Location: St. Francis Church/Ramekins Culinary School
Venue Cost: Ceremony cost is about $1500 for the church donation, donation to the priest and a singer and pianist. Our reception rental fee is $4000.
Food/Drink: Catering is running us about $12,000 for full open bar for 7 hours, 4 passed apps, dinner (filet and halibut) and a late night snack/taco bar. Cake is $750 (the bakery is in SF) and our favors are running about $700 (macaroons from Bouchon in Napa).
Photographer: $3650 and he is great. This was the cheapest I could find too but I love him. Most were well into the $5000-$10000 and that could be for a single shooter which made me almost fall over. Serously
Flowers/Decor: $2,000 for ceremony flowers, flowers for the pews, cocktail hour centerpieces, centerpieces for dinner, personal flowers for bridal party and parents.
Music: $1500 for Mariachi Band, $1000 for DJ, $600 for Photobooth and like I said $250 for ceremony music.
Costs not listed: $1500 for Rentals, $1900 for a coordinator, $1500 for hotel for us and immediate family (this is out of town for everyone), $4500 for my dress, alterations, accessories and FI’s tux (he bought) and shoes, cuff links, tie, $375 for hair and makeup.
Overall, we are spending about $40K-$45K including the honeymooon. Don’t let this scare you though, and I don’t know your budget, so maybe it won’t. But there are tons of venues and options in the Bay Area that you can make work for any budget and guest count. If you are looking more in the Bay, we were considering the Brazillian Room in Berkeley and have heard it’s a wonderful option!
The items that are big ticket: photogrpahy, catering/bar, venue rental. These will probably be the most costly. Flowers were also a little shocking to me.