- 5 years ago
- Wedding: June 2013
This is more of a vent than anything, but here goes. When my fiance and I first got engaged, I was very stressed out as to how we would afford to get married. I was very relieved to find out that he had put away a $5000 monetary gift from his grandma from graduation, so all of that money was set aside for our wedding. Then, his mother made a really surprising and sweet offer and promised to pay not only for our venue but also for our honeymoon.
But, even in spite of this, that original $5000 budget is going out of the window and I don’t know what to do about it. Other than my dress, which I know I overspent on given our budget, the costs are just adding up so fast I don’t know where to cut the fat. I didn’t go for a crazy caterer – it’s $2500 for around 100 guests. And I can’t cut the guest list because the only reasonable way to do so would be to cut out our friends and have it family only, but given how close we are to our friends that just really isn’t an option.
I guess the real breaking point for me was this weekend when we attended a bridal expo. I met an amazing, wonderful DJ who could do everything I had dreamed of in a wedding – but he was out of budget. Now I feel trapped with a cheesy DJ and I just wish things were a little different. I never imagined getting this preoccupied with the wedding and allowing myself to spend so frivolously. If you had told me a year ago that I would end up choosing a $900 dress I would’ve told whoever said that that they were out of their mind.
So what started as a $5000 wedding budget including everything is now over $7000 not including the venue or the honeymoon. Now when my mom asks what I want for Christmas I’m wondering if I’ll be asking for a bridal headpiece or a set of matching Eiffel tower vases. -_-;
And perhaps worst of all, while I’m starting off my PhD I am spending WAY too much time thinking and worrying about the wedding. I’ve been able to get away with it so far because we’ve had so many days off (thank you Jewish holidays) but soon I’m going have to get my rear in gear and I’m not sure what’s going to end up happening.
Thanks for reading, anybody who gets through this. Is anybody else feeling the same?