Post # 1
Major dilemma. My FH is a jazz musician and recently we went to a concert to see our all time favorite musician. I paid several hundred dollars and woke up at the crack of dawn to get the tickets. AnyWho a few days later, I sent this Grammy Award winning artist the biggest fruit basket that I could afford. I also gave him my cell and email address in the off chance he would want to play at my wedding.
HE Stinking called me back! W W! I haven’t signed 90% of my contracts and now I’m thinking about rearranging my wedding to make room in my budget. Am I crazy? I don’t know how much its going to cost. He just left a vm. I thought my FH was going to pee he was so happy that he would even call back. Part of me feels bad because I was planning on signing contracts this week and certain vendors know that. But if I can swing it, I want it. Should I feel bad?
Post # 3
Absolutely not. The vendors should understand, I say go for it. It’s a once in a lifetime….just as long as it doesn’t require to refinance and go into debt.
Post # 4
If music is your thing – maybe i’d go for it, depending on how much he cost.
Find out how much he is. Including travel fees and any other special needs he might have.
But before he gets back to you – look at the other options in your area. Check out all the bands you like in your favorite genre. Check out reviews too. I’d look to see if there are any reviews of your Grammy winning artist too – from previous concerts.
The other thing i’m thinking about with a Grammy Award winning artist is he might be a diva – and might require lodging/special treatment (his favorite foods and stuff)….. and he might detract from you t0o… I mean i don’t know how much you love this guy…. but you don’t want to be thinking about his comfort and all of his special needs while you are getting ready the morning of your wedding. However, if he’s cool and down to earth – i’d totally consider it! My fiance and I are also musicians – so i understand how important the music is to you!
Post # 5
No way, that is AWESOME! We would have loved to be able to afford a live band, let along a Grammy Award-worthy one. The fact that your FH is a jazz musician makes it even more worth it.
Before you get too excited, find out how much he charges. If it’s anywhere within reach, go for it! It’s a once in a lifetime opportunity for the biggest day of your life. Don’t feel bad about the other vendors, they will make the money on the other weddings that they are marking the prices up for!
Be aware, though, most famous musicians are always willing to do private gigs…at a huge sticker price, so that might just be your deciding factor. You can’t blame them, though. Their talent often justifies the big price.
I’m going to cross my fingers for you that he’s a good guy and is willing to do it a reasonable cost. GOOD LUCK!
Post # 6
Per your profile, you are getting married in September in San Diego – that is PRIME wedding time. If you end up going with different vendors (to make budget room for your musicians), then if your original vendors are good, they will have no trouble finding other clients for that weekend. You should not feel guilty. Congrats!
Post # 7
I think music is really important, so I’m somewhat biased 🙂 but I think if you can adjust your budget to make it work, go for it! My favorite band of all time will be playing our wedding (though in our case a local group, not a Grammy winner) because we tweaked our budget.
However it also depends on just how much we are talking… If this one thing would take your ENTIRE budget, that may not be the best idea, but if its just more than you’d planned for that particular line item, maybe it will work. In our case, the band was 2-3x our original music budget but only 15% of the total budget so it worked out for us.
Good luck, I’m sure it will be awesome! So who is it!?!?
Post # 8
oh – before he gets back to you – i’d sit down with your fiance and anyone else who might help pay for it and say ok if he is $xxxxx or under – we’ll get him. If not – we won’t. Also I’d make sure you know how long he will perform for.
Post # 9
I would totally ask. Sure, a lot of famous musicians are used to special treatment and big bucks. On the other hand, when I lived in Oakland, Counting Crows used to stop in and play local bars for tips and pitchers when they were in town. They just liked to get to play for a smaller audience, in the venues that they played starting out, and thought it was cool that everybody was so surprised. I have heard the same thing about Springsteen. And I don’t think that jazz musicians are necessarily the prima donnas that rockers are… Keep us posted – this is exciting!