Post # 1
This is probably something that has been discussed extensively, but I would like to make a poll and get your opinions 🙂
We are starting to plan our wedding, but it seems like it will be a bit tricky to stay within budget.
We are debating whether we should compromise on the number of guests (we estimated about 175 guests), but get the venue that we want, and better food, decorations, etc. or if we should invite all those people and lower the cost per guest by getting a less fancy meal, and maybe not the venue of our dream.
The 175 guests are all people that we would love to see, and are still in contact with, so I think it would be hard for us to choose who not to invite, and at the same time we loooove good food, and we want to have an amazing night!
What did you do?
Thank you for sharing your experiences!
Post # 2
I cut almost everything else, my entire decor budget was $400 which included my flowers. We also chose inexpensive wedding bands and DIY’d as much as I could (no pre-made kits, cross utilized materials, and upcycled).
Post # 3
- Wedding: October 2011 - Bed & Breakfast
For me, people that I adore matter more than food or a place. As long as I could feed them satisfactory amounts of appropriate food and drink, I would choose my people over my venue. Afterall, my venue won’t be there to kick my butt into shape should I ever falter in my marriage.
Post # 4
geekychinchilla: I’ll be honest and say that we kinda threw the budget out the window because we came in right on budget. We compromised a bit on decor, but we weren’t going to go all-out on that anyways. We did not compromise on food, alcohol, or people, though.
IF there would have been an issue, we’d have never taken it off of the people we invited. A wedding isn’t about the venue, or being beautiful. Those things are nice, but a wedding is really about sharing that day with your friends and family.
Post # 5
We have a guest list of around 130 people when we wanted a list of around 80 people. Unfortunately these people are all close as we both have large families so we didn’t want to compromise the guest list.
I chose compromised on food etc for guests but I don’t really think that’s fair as we didn’t compromise on quality or anything. We just started thinking smarter, going from a typical wedding venue all inclusive $113pp. to a venue which isn’t typically a wedding venue where we can BYO alcohol and an independent caterer is $20pp.
Post # 6
Thanks for all your answers! I feel the same way, I really don’t feel like I want to alter the guest list, so hopefully we will find something in our area, and make it affordable 🙂 I will really try to find a venue where we can bring our own alcohol, that makes a huge difference!
Post # 7
For us, doing a domestic destination wedding made it so nearly all of our closest friends and family can attend, but we save costs on the dozens and dozens of uninvited wedding crashers typical in my FI’s culture.
we chose a venue that has a max capacity that’s pretty close to the max # we budgeted for. The runner up venue could hold nearly 200 more ppl so that could have easily spiraled out of control and made it harder to justify a more limited guest list to friends and family. Since we kinda can’t go over, that’s helpful and we did invites in rounds as we received declines. It’s not just a line to say that the best way to decrease costs is to decrease guest count significantly.
we also kept our budget at least $8k lower (not including the $4-6k savings on not hiring the videographers I’d like)by: asking venue for discounts and free things, getting married on a Sunday, picking a venue that doesn’t require much decor or extras, getting save the dates on sale for under $40 for 100, getting minibook invites for half off and diying the rest of invites, doing half our reception tables with candelabras instead of floral centerpieces, picking only one entree with no choices (besides vegetarian) and no extra courses over the 3 minimum courses for our venue, not doing champagne poured/wasted for toasts, diy hair (I don’t think diy makeup is saving us money), no pro videographer, getting dress and shoes for much cheaper online.
Post # 8
Pick two-three of what you and your FI feel as the most imorpant aspects of your wedding. The venue, amount of guests, decorations, attire, etc and skim some of the budgets from everything else and spend a little more in what’s most important to you guys.
Diy as much as possible, stationary, decorations, try silk or sola flowers instead of real ones (lots of tutorials on how to make pomanders and bouquets/bouts), favours and so much more!
If you are having a longer engagement, you can wait for sales at bridal stores for your and BM dresses.
Post # 9
I was willing to compromise on everything except the food and the cake.
Post # 10
I guess in some respects my FI and I are incredibly lucky to only have our immediate family here in Australia with us… If we were in the UK (and all of our friends were too) we would barely scrape in at 160 guests. Because of the huge distance between us all, we are estimating a guest list under 70. As a result, we are able to have a really small wedding, with a bigger food and wine budget.