Post # 1
After I got engaged, I learned that one of the first things you need to do is set a budget. I have a little over 6 months until my wedding and honestly, I don’t have a super strict budget. I’m just paying off what I can, using extra money (if any) on other things that I need, etc. So if you were to ask me what the budget is, I wouldn’t be able to tell you. Is this really bad? I’m just not wanting to stress too much over this wedding and I just know that no matter what, it will all work out and I will still be marrying my FI.
So anyone else not set a budget but not really swimming with money either? Or am I the only naive one? Lol.
Post # 3
i dont have an EXACT budget.. i have a number i wanted to keep it below, but with all the little things that add up and extra people we ‘need’ to invite, i think we’ll be going over my prewedding planning budget.. not by a lot though, maybe an extra $2000ish? (i really hope not- we’re paying for it ourselves and fiance is already trying to cut back!)
Post # 4
@alotlikelove: We didn’t have one. When we first started planning, his parents said they would pay for certain things (pretty much everything big) and we would pay for one thing. My mom paid for my dress and my dad and grandma are paying for the RD. His parents have also ended up paying for a lot of the little things too. His mom is always coming up with crafty ideas or finding things online, so she just buys them if I say ok. I think that having some sort of budget in mind might be good, but we have pretty much doubled what I though our budget might be.
Post # 5
@alotlikelove: We set a budget because I didn’t want to be surprised with a large bill at the end, and I definitely didn’t want to stress about paying for my wedding as the date neared. I guess if my parents were paying, I probably wouldn’t be so paranoid about not having enough money. However, I’m a pretty miserly penny pincher, so extra spending really rubs me the wrong way lol.
Post # 6
I’ve got a ballpark that I’d like to keep our contribution under, but not a hard budget (my parents are paying for the venue, catering, and dress). It’s really difficult to set a budget when FI and I have had our jobs for less than a year (can’t forcast our earnings/spending so well). I’d like to keep our part under $6,000 which since we’ve already got that in savings and we’re over a year out it shouldn’t be a problem, but I don’t have X for the offciant and Y for the invites or anything.
Post # 7
I guess i set mines really high bc i no where near going over. My FH and I have lived together for nine yrs now. so the method that we have going and is working great for us is he pay all the bills with his income and i pay for the wedding. Also bc i have been using the cash or full payment method and have been able to get addtional discount. people always like cash and full payment . Every person I has hired has been paid off except caterer and florist. Hasnt hire florist yet.
Post # 8
We don’t have a budget. We just go with what seems reasonable for each item (venue, food, photo, etc) we’re just using the averages for our area which aren’t too bad. We have more of a budget of “it’s reasonable to spend x amount on food, x amount on venue”
Post # 9
we had an idea of approx what we thought we would spend. then after we fell in love with our venue and figured out the total cost, we created a more realistic estimate of what our total wedding would be. we tried to be thrifty where we could to cut back, and paid for things over the course of a year as they came up, but didn’t refuse an item because it was ‘over the budget’. Example: I said I wanted to spend $1,000 on flowers. Well the total cost after taxes and delivery came to $1,400. We were able to scale down a few things to get it to $1,200 Which was close enough to our budget while still giving us what we wanted.
Post # 10
No, it’s not strict. We have ballpark figures sort of determined for items, and I try my best to stay under them. For example, I figured $2,500 for photography. We will end up paying just under $2,200. For an officiant, I figured $500ish, and we will end up paying $575. I try to stay under so that if an item is unexpectantly a little higher it ends up becoming more even.
Post # 11
I originally had a budget. However, I quickly learned it wasnt realistic. The first budget I had in mind was gone with the venue alone. We are now more than double and stopped counting.
Post # 12
Like other posters, we had a general idea in the beginning. However, we have added about 50% to our original “budget”. We are keeping an idea of what is reasonable to spend for each item and using that as a guideline.
Post # 13
I haven’t set a budget because my father is helping pay for a lot of the wedding, but he has never really given me exact numbers of what he will pay for. So for now I am just booking my vendors and asking for money as I go. Hopefully I won’t get stuck owing a lot of money when the wedding comes, but if I do I know it will all work out.
Post # 14
I’m seconding my “budget” being what sounds reasonable for each area.
Dress+Alterations, Petticoat, and Veil = $2076
Jewelry + Shoes = $280
Photographer = $2700
DJ + Uplighting = $2085
Food = $9000
Alcohol = $800 (yay for connections!)
Venue = $3000
Stationary (STDs, Invites, TYs, RSVP, Directions, Guest Info, and ALL envelops)+ Stamps = $1500
Linens = $900
Flowers look like they are going to be $3000
So we’re at $25,000 right now and still need… pampering (hair/makeup/nails), FI owns a black tuxedo (yay for marrying a guy who has a upscale wardrobe thanks to business events), gifts, hotel accomodations (looking like $500 for everyone – since in my area the bride and groom pay for wedding party’s hotel), the transportation, cake, not hiring a professionl videographer as little sister’s BF is a film student and is borrowing his school’s equipment (and video is NOT important to us), guest book, and aisle runner (looking like $480)… so I’d say we’re going to be right around $30,000 for the wedding…. eek, that sounds like a hella lot! Half a year’s pay for one day! Haha! Oh weddings!
Post # 15
Heh, no. We were originally thinking in the vicinity of 20k, but at the same time… we want what we want. I want what I want, my fiance wants what he wants, and my parents want what they want. And no one could agree on any compromises. So… as it turns out… 20k is just what we’re spending on food/alcohol. It’s like a 35k wedding not even counting rehearsal dinner/honeymoon/clothing/rings.
Post # 16
We don’t have set number or anything, our budget is “the wedding we want for as low a price as we can get it.” (the wedding will be an intimate affair and there are ton of common “optional extras” I’m not the least bit interested in including in it, so I hope it won’t get too bad).