Post # 1
Hello, so im about 6 month out from my wedding and temped to cancel it all and fly away somewhere and elope. Originally i wanted a tiny destination wedding because i dont care for tradition or the planning/expense that comes with it BUT my fiance wanted traditional with all his realtives, speeches, toasts the whole thing. SO now were are into a $30 K wedding. I have been as frugal as possible on decor, flowers, etc cutting out anything i can but our venue (food, drinks) are so expensive and hard to budge. Breakdown for 150-170 person wedding (depending on RSVPs) Dinner: $44 per person (cheapest option) Corkage $13.75 per person but we can bring our own booze and buy a license late lunch $ 8 per person cermemony rental for site, a few chairs for the elderly and speaker system $600 the only places i can see cutting are the ceremony location, no late lunch and guest but my parents keep saying no and will pay. Im not ohk with them or us wasting $$ HELP any advice would be great
Post # 2
I would need to see a budget breakdown to know where you might be able to cut from.
I’ve always found that brides are able to cut more from flowers [there are some REALLY cheap options like Sams Club or Costco that can save TONS], favors, fancy chairs/rentals.
Post # 3
- Wedding: October 2014 - Cape May
If you could lay out a breakdown of your expenses maybe we could give you more insight. I’m currently 6 months out from our wedding but I only have about 3k to work with. So far I have found that flowers and photos chew up a big portion so were cutting those out. A friend can handle photos and I’ll do flowers from a local grocery store instead with ribbon tied around the bottom of the bouquet, or I may just carry a single rose instead. Just look at anything you could DIY yourself and I’ve gotten so many great ideas right here on the Bee.
Post # 4
I was in a similar situation, my fiance wanted a big wedding with all the works but we finally agreed on being frugal. I canceled the big venue ($3,700 rental fee!) and cut the guest list in half. We were gonna have a small wedding at my mom’s house but I found a club house that is only $400 to rent and we can bring any type of food in. Find your biggest expenses and see what you can compromise on. For example, if fiance wants a more traditional wedding he has to be willing to cut down the guest list.
Post # 5
Wowee! We are having 234 people and our budget is $20k. After reimbursments the wedding cost will be at $17k, crossing fingers for $15k.
We definitely went with less is more, focused on DIY center peices a couple major focal points, good food and drinks 🙂
Post # 6
You can try to DIY as much as you can, or borrow from people who have already had weddings or have similar decor/taste to your wedding theme. We are buying flowers from Costco and making our bouquets and bouts and are not having any other flowers (outdoor desert venue).
Little things here and there will make a difference. Good luck!
Post # 7
- Wedding: November 2012 - Oak Tree Manor
First of all, I don’t think you need to serve TWO meals! That’s overly generous, especially if you’re on a limited budget!
Second, cut the flowers or buy bouquets from Costco or a grocery store. Trust me, you don’t *need* them.
Third – that corkage cost is crazy! I bet you would save a lot of money by getting your own liquor license and bring your own beer and wine, and not worrying about liquor and mixers. You can buy beer and wine in bulk at Costco or Sam’s Club, and if you keep the receipt, you can return any unused bottles after the wedding.
Can you post a more detailed cost break-down here? we can help you pare down some of the other costs!
Post # 8
One thing we are doing, for our late lunch which is out at midnight. My mom is coordinating the woman of the family to bring a platter/dish. So we are having meat balls, chips and dips, those kind of finger foods. That saved us at least $1000.
We are also saving on corkage by hiring our own bartenders, supplying all our own liquor and supplies. We were quotes 10k and we are doing it for less than 4k
Post # 9
jennifer.marie.37266: How is it costing 30k? I understand that food + corkege will be about 9k but after that you kind of need to look at everything more as an extra. I think our wedding cost roughling 10k for 90 guests including wedding bands and I have to say that although we had the most amazing day we could have cut out even more and it wouldnt have been missed. We did our own flowers which was a huge cost saver and I loved them!
Post # 10
+ 1 on needing a cost break down to help you 🙂
Post # 11
jennifer.marie.37266: I second (third, fourth?) needing the breakdown to see it all.
Is there anywhere else you could hold the reception and have catering brought in? That seems to be your big issue (from what I see, anyway). That’s a big cost for corkage and dinner, plus I’m sure you have a fee for renting the facility also. Could you have your ceremony in the same location?
We’re having 170 on approx $7000, including my dress. Our big savings come from renting a rec hall for only a couple hundred for both the ceremony & reception. We’re doing a combination of self-cater and catering – getting BBQ from a local restaurant and my aunts are making some of the sides (you can make enough green beans for 170 people for around $20 using supplies from Sam’s Club – catering would be quadruple that). Cost per person ends up being under $7 per person per meal.
I’m not saying you have to go that route or cut things that drastically. . . but if you find a venue where you can bring in a caterer with more affordable options . . I’d say that’d be the way to go. We’re hiring a bartender for $100 and buying all the booze in bulk ourselves too.
We’re also DIYing centerpieces, backdrops, putting together our own flowers, etc.
Post # 12
Thanks for your help ladies! here is my budget.. im sure i have under estimated transportation, rehearsal etc and im not counting my dress… Hopefully its a big enough picture to read. I also am doing flowers at costco and we hired a decorator for $1500 because we cannot get into the venue until an hour before.