Post # 1
Sorry, this is a rant but I feel ill!!
Our initial budget was 20k for 80 guests (NOT BAD RIGHT? WRONG!) I’m seeing it creep higher and higher on the budget calculator after talking to vendors and getting rough estimates on everything. Rentals are killing me, photography is gutting me, and catering makes me wanna THROW UP! It’s closer to 28k now and this is without rings or the damn honeymoon.
Tell me this isn’t totally insane!
Everything else we’re being super skimpy on too! I’m doing my own flowers, invites, likely even makeup now. FI is even taking his suit out of the budget and considering it a work expense.
We got a great venue at a great price. It’s one of the cheapest venues in LA but we have to rent every.frikken.thing. I didn’t think rentals would be this bad. This sucks soo much! We still have plenty of time but I’m about ready to call this wedding quits. Most of our loved ones are out of town and we rarely see them so I think in my mind I loved the idea of everyone in a room together. Now I’m wondering if this is even worth it. What’s the point. Why not just spend this money on trips and fly to them!?
I wish I knew the bottom line price on everything and thought this all through before planning. I’m thinking city hall and renting out a restaurant would’ve been just as fabulous.
How much did you go over budget and why did you choose to throw the wedding you did? Are you in sticker shock like me? Have you ever changed up your plans last minute?
Post # 3
More likely than not, it is all worth it. I spent over $20K for cocktail hour, sit down dinner, open bar and dancing for 150, but this was in Ohio. I don’t regret a single penny, although I may have been better off with a more expensive venue that included more stuff. We took our honeymoon 6 months later because of money and time.
There were definitely times of sticker shock. I can’t speak to prices in L.A. to know whether or not prices are ridiculous, but the money, planning and stress were all worth it. That was the last time a lot of my family was together before losing an aunt, uncle and cousin.
Good luck and hang in there!
Post # 4
Hi, date twin! My FI and I are already about $6-7k over our original budget, depending on how much our food ends up costing us. It is certainly daunting and makes me want to cry sometimes when I realize how much money we are spending for a party! But, deep down I know it’ll be worth it.
Post # 5
@Madelin: I am feeling the same way! we had a 20K budget as well, and quickly found we wouldnt even be able to get a VENUE (with drink/food) for under that price. We are also going to be around $27k when all is said and done (no rings yet, no honeymoon). I’m teaching summer school and looking for other side jobs because the sticker shock is giving me a panic attack!
Post # 6
we just got our final vendor bill:
just over 10 K for 70 guests plus feeding our vendors and ceremony fee
photog: 1200 plus 150 for engagement photos
dress 300 +125
chair covers 300
we’ve done it about 20 grand, but i’ve done a lot of DIY…insted of a full cake i got an 8 inche for the top of a cake stand and made cupcakes myself
invitations done by me, favours done by me, programs done by me….
Post # 7
our honeymoon and rings are paid for….my FI worked a job with his dad (paid a lot) and I used $500 of my christmas money to help with wedding bands….
Post # 8
We didn’t have a strict budget, but after all’s taken into account including honeymoon and rings, we spent like $45k (our honeymoon was expensive though; without it we clocked in $7k cheaper).
Was it worth it? Tough question. I had a BLAST at our reception. I don’t regret spending the money, and we paid cash for everything, so no debt, which was vital for me. It was also one of the most stressful times of my life, second only to studying for the bar exam.
Am I glad I did it, for myself, for DH, for his family, etc? Sure. Would I do it again? Abso-frickin-lutely NOT.
Post # 9
@Madelin: oh i totally feel ya. our budget was 20k.. that was before i realised how much my dream wedding was gonna cost (like 5x!!) so we are creepin up to the 30k’s even with cutting costs!! )= but that does include rings not honeymoon.
I really believe it will be worth it in the end <3
Post # 10
@Madelin: Most things are worth it!!! In the end, you will most likely love every bit of your wedding, and it will be worth it to you & your husband. We’re in NY and originally we figured $25k budget… then it ended up being $50k for 130 people. I would love to have the extra $25k in my pocket… but we loved just about every detail of our wedding and wouldn’t really do anything different if we could do it again. Maybeee spend a little less on the photographer (we spent a lot and didn’t have time in between the ceremony & reception to take pix elsewhere).
Post # 11
Not wanting to be negative…but for me no it is not worth it…$25,000-$50,000 for one day….No way…Now if we were millionaires then of course totally different…but that sort of money is a deposit on a house or a nice reno on a house…I could never personally justify it….now many years ago I did have the so called perfect wedding…no idea how much it all cost but it was definately a LOT…now I am an encore bride and spending a tiny fraction of the cost…I think my age makes me realize what is really important is not all that ‘stuff’…it is simply a union of two soulmates surrounded by loved ones…what could be more beautiful?
Post # 12
@Madelin: what location in LA are you getting married? I’m in LA and currently on the venue hunt and everything is soooo overpriced.
Post # 13
There are brides and grooms that set a budget, never go over and even come in under. The majority find that their initial budget wasn’t enough, that all things wedding cost more than they realized, and they end up upping their budget. You live in a major city and things tend to be more expensive there. I think that your wedding budget is reasonable for your area and that you can have a wonderful wedding that you won’t regret
Post # 14
I asked myself that question today…I really hope it’s worth it. Our budget is out the window and I’m still not getting everything I wished for in the first place. I really, really wish we could scrap the wedding and just elope… but it’s 3 weeks away, so I just have to suck it up and move forward. Money comes and goes I guess. At least it’s comforting to know I’m not the only one feeling this way!
Post # 15
I hear ya! I’ve had many moments of sticker shock. For me, it has made the most sense to look at each area individually and ask if it’s worth $x. We are forgoing floral centerpieces and wedding favours, for example; I just couldn’t justify the cost and didn’t think it would matter that much on the day of. There are other things that we have splurged in (venue) and I’m thinking it will be worth every penny. Good luck!
Post # 16
I live in Los Angeles too! The FI and I are originally from NY, and while I really wanted to have my wedding out here in CA (hello beautiful weather!) it was cheaper for us to have in in NY.
The one thing we lucked out on, is my venue. We’re having the ceremony and reception at my Aunt’s house (she owns a bed & breakfast).. so we got the venue for free.
Other ways we’re saving are:
-we’re not having a wedding party (no bridesmaids or groomsmen)
-keeping the guest list small (40 guests)
-we’re designing our own invites (the FI is a graphic/web designer, so we kind of lucked out with that too,)
-I’m doing my own makeup (but not hair- because I SUCK at styling my hair, lol,)
-My dress budget is $1,000. But I’m going to Dolly Couture to have it designed, and they try and keep their dresses under $1K for brides.
Of course I think most of it is “worth it,” but not everything. I think there are a lot of unneccesary things brides have at their wedding that either no one notices, or cares about. The dress, the flowers, the food, the bride, the groom, and the music. Those are things I’m focusing on. Everything else (like decor…) I’m either DIYing, or just not doing (Cute chalkboard signs? No. Not gonna have them. Photobooth? No. Too expensive. Chair covers? What. No one cares if their chair has a bow tied to its back.) lol