Post # 1
anyone else want to be sick when they open their budget files? No matter how much I trim it, I just feel sick when I look at how much we’re planning to spend on one day! YIKES! Ours is even much much much smaller than most of our friends- I just can’t imagine spending so much on just one day!
Post # 3
Not really. I want my dream wedding.. we aren’t spending a crapton [about 19,000 total, estimated]. Our budget was 22,000 but thanks to some really great deals I’ve found, it’s down to 19,000 and still decreasing.
I only plan to get married once, so I want it to be wonderful, and everything we want. We plan to have ours paid off by the end of this year. [So next year we can save for a house, and move before or right after our wedding].
Post # 4
- Wedding: August 2013 - Rocky Mountains USA
I am. I realize its not much compared to most budgets ($13,000), but that’s still an insane amount of money. That’s more than we put on the downpayment for our house!
But you just have to own it. We made the decision so we’re embracing it. And having all our loved ones together will be (hopefully?!) worth it!
Post # 5
@lolot: Ya, we’re around the same point at 13K- and I felt that it took a lot of wiggling to get it down to that number- ex, someome is doing my make up, my mom bought my dress, Ive decided no wedding band- just the engagement ring, DIY flowers. At first I thought it would be so worth it but the closer and closer we get, the more it seems so so much for one day. I really hope it’s a super amazing day too! 🙂
Post # 6
I am ok with the actual money for the wedding itself but have started to massively freak about the travel expenses involved. We’re getting married in Scotland so we have to factor in flights, hotel for at least 2 weeks (1 week of that is fancy hotels for the 2 days before the wedding, wedding night and the start of the honeymoon). FI’s family lives in Scotland still but since all of his family is coming, bed space is at a premium and I’m not sure we’ll score a free place to stay. Then we realized that we’ll need to rent a car for the 2-3 weeks that we are there, plus just the eating and whatnots that will come up when not being at home for 3 weeks.
That is making me panic. We’ve been good with sticking with the weddign budget itself, the desination part is KILLING me though!!
Post # 7
I was for a while. But he manage to trim some cost, but I feel ok because we are paying cash and not going into debt for the wedding.
Post # 8
@papercrafter: YES! I was feeling very sick about spending money on stupid wildflowers in mason jars for $55 a pop! Then they would go to waste after 4 hours. I think when we cancelled the Destination Wedding I finally slept for the first time in months. Seriously, you don’t have to spend that much if it’s making you ill! Plans can change!
Post # 9
When we first drew up our budget, we didn’t feel comfortable paying that much for a day either. We decide to instead do a much smaller wedding and casual reception to fit what we were comfortable.
Go through your items and see what you feel comfortable. If you’re paying $55 for a centerpiece that you don’t even love than opt for something dyi or more simple. I feel like lots of brides feel like they need a certain caliber of wedding presentation when really its all about what you want. Focus on what you have to have and what you can do without (or with less of) – I don’t need a cake but we want to have an big honeymoon and our budget reflects that accordingly.
Post # 10
” If you’re paying $55 for a centerpiece that you don’t even love than opt for something dyi or more simple. I feel like lots of brides feel like they need a certain caliber of wedding presentation when really its all about what you want.”
I did opt for something simpler – an elopement!
Back when I was planning a wedding, I was very worried about the $$$ people would have to spend to get to Jackson Hole and I had them sitting on picnic tables for an open aired reception. It just didn’t match up. I compensated by making it a 3 day event (pizza party, wedding/reception, white water rafting). It was too much to plan and pull off for $10k.
Plus BIL (the only person who had been here before) was telling everyone that my venue “wasn’t that fancy, you know” and my mom “What else are YOU doing besides a wedding? That’s heck of a long way to go for just a wedding.” – which made me worry even further about the caliber of the whole thing. It would have been fine if everone were local, but just not when you have to pay $600 for a plane ticket, plus car and hotel.