(Closed) Budoir pics – would you?

posted 9 years ago in Photos/Videos
Post # 3
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

THEY’RE AWESOME! i did them as a welcome-home-from-Iraq gift and he was completely stunned. I would say let her use them. NObody will ever recognize you, and if they do, who cares?! My photographers have the rights to mine, and I could care less. Anybody who sees them just raves about them to me. They weren’t done tacky, either, but very classy, pin up style. I showed them to my mom. Yes, my mom. She thought they were awesome, too! DO THEM! They’re a wonderful gift and your FI will love them, I guarantee it. And really, I wouldn’t worry about having exclusive rights to them. She’s doing you a favor, so you should do her one and let her build your portfolio. Most photographers have a password protected gallery for boudoir pics. For the studio I went to, I had to call and ask them over the phone for it to view the pics. And it’s not like the women were naked. The ones posted were the conservative shots. In studio were the less conservatives for the women who wanted to bare more of it all. You can stay fully clothed in yours or whatever you want to do! So if you are concerned about that, YOU control the conservativeness of your own pictures.

Post # 4
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2010

I personally have to differ.  Your image is your image.  You will be possibly seeking a different job in the future and it’s not good to have floating about any questionable photos.  This is why I don’t myspace or facebook and was told even socially pictures taken aren’t really welcomed by employers.   One of the VP’s I know where I work said that’s not a good idea professionally.  Many employers these days DO internet searches on you btw.  I know my job did all searches including legal and background checks too.

  If they can’t give you all the rights to your own pics and all the pics, I wouldn’t do it.  Do you want your picture (if it is budoir it is suggestive at the least) gracing the internet in that manner?  Moreover, would your FI want you doing that too?  Plus think of your professionalism.

I think these pics are fine…if your privacy is 100 percent respected and the photographer allows you to have a say and right as to what happens to the pictures.  

Post # 5
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

I mention it to the FI when we just got engaged and he said he would rather be the one behind the camera. hehe.

I never thought about it that way, bellenga but you are right. If you have a "professional" job it might not be that great to have suggestive pictures of you floating around the internet.
Thanks for the mention. This clinches it for me that I won’t do it. I do have a professional career and would hate to have my credibility lessened because of that.

And I agree about asking your FI. Would he be comfortable with someone else taking pictures of you like that?

Post # 6
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596 posts
Busy bee

What worries me is that this would be the photog’s very first budoir shoot so you have no idea whether they will be tastefully done or totally embarrassingly awkward.  Furthermore, to have no control over where these pictures end up would be a dealbreaker for me.

If you can’t afford it now, you can always get them done later as an anniversary shot.

Post # 7
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

Hmmm, i have a professional job. But my name is not mentioned on any of the pictures that my studio took. The only way someone would know it’s ME is if they went in there and physically looked at them. Mine are not floating around on the internet…they’re in a private gallery that you can access per request only. The women in the studio don’t give the password to men. Only women who are interested in having their photos done there. So I think it really depends on how your photographer handles that. My wedding photographer (who didn’t do my boudoirs) said she hired a professional model to do her boudoir portfolio for that reason, though. I met with a few people before I did these, and ALL the photographers were incredibly respectful of your privacy. A couple of them only had the pictures in their own studio. Nobody will frown upon you if they go to the studio, look through a boudoir photo, and suddenly recognize you. Obviously they’re there for the same reason . Just make sure she isn’t going to like, load them onto Flickr or something of that nature. Now that would creep me out, too!

Post # 8
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43 posts
Newbee
  • Wedding: September 2009

I’d pay the extra  200 and know that my image was not going to be used in some way that I would be upset or offended by. My peace of mind is definately worth that.

Post # 9
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2009

I agree with those that said not to do it. You don’t know what her "conservative" is, you can’t see any examples, AND she would own the rights to use the pics on her blog, etc? I don’t like the sounds of that. If I were you, I would hold off until you can afford it- maybe for your 1 year anniversary. 

Post # 10
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672 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2009

For me, the rights would be worth waiting so that I could afford it.  Or you could consider just extending him an open invitation to be the one behind the camera directing you 🙂

Post # 11
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981 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2008 - A tiny town just outside of Glacier National Park

I did it and I loved it, and I gave my photog permission to post the photos on her blog. She’s only using initials, but I wouldn’t care anyway. That’s just how I am. 🙂

Post # 12
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: May 2018

I would wait too for a deal that comes by that gives you full rights to the boudoir shots. As previous posters have mentioned, it could hurt your future education/profession if those pics are all over the internet. I also feel like a good ethical photographer would always ask you first before they post a pic on their portfolio or on their blog, especially with boudoir shots.  

 

If you don’t mind me asking, what’s your budget for boudoir pics? There are many photographers these days who are doing boudoir and have good deals.  

Post # 14
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596 posts
Busy bee

The problem is that you don’t know for usre if she will only post the conservative ones.  Everyone has different ideas of what "conservative" is.  Once they are out there, they are out there for her to share with potential clients or on her blog as she sees fit.  Given that, I would highly suggest that you wait until yuo have the extra money to buy the exclusive rights to the pictures.  $200 might seem like a lot now, but if these pictures get seen by the wrong people, you will cringe and wish you had just paid the $200 to avoid the embarrassment!

Post # 15
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Helper bee

She has to get permission to put your images on the internet and in a blog so sign a waiver telling her that your face is not to be used. That’s what I did with mine, and everything was fine. And if she’s new, she’s not going to screw it up. Just write something up in Word like "I, (name), allow (photographer) to post photos on the internet as long as they do not show my face or any other identifying features" and take two copies. One for you and one for her, and both of you sign both. I would think that would cover you. Also tell her not to use your name. Most people who stumble on the photos aren’t going to know you by your leg … probably. 

BTW, DH loooooooves the photos I gave him for a wedding present. 

Post # 16
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2010

Those are great points fellow Bees and Robin.

I am not opposed to budoir photography at all.  What I am opposed to is people putting "me" out there when I don’t give them permission to and possibly in an unflattering or unprofessional light. 

That is definitely what a corporate VP told me recently when we were talking about various subjects regarding photos..she actually mentioned facebook and myspace first but then I brought the topic around to intimate budoir pictures.  She said that recently they’d looked at candidates for a high ranking position, and did VAST searches on them to see what kind of leader (yet still an employee) they would be.  She also said "Remember those incriminating myspace shots that cost several Miss USA’s their state crown?  I have a hint..businesses work the same way when we find that on you."

If I knew I had 100 percent of the rights and was ok with the photographer and knew he/she was both ethical and respected in her profession, that’s a different story.  But I just don’t want all that out there. 

Now if you KNOW your photographer, are comfortable with knowing 100 percent of where your pics are and who has rights to them and if/how your image is utilized, then that’s a personal choice.  Like I said, I think that kind of photography is GREAT..I just see the POTENTIAL for abuses. 

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