Post # 1
Another thread inspired me to ask this question. It is extremely common where I live to build in some buffer time to account for the major metropolitan area gridlock and traffic, not to mention out of town guests coming in for the day who are clueless as to just how bad and unpredictable things can be around here.
So, did you call the ceremony earlier than you really plan to start? If so, by how much?
Post # 3
My photographer requested 30 minutes, but I’m not sure how I feel about that…
Post # 4
We did not have a buffer- HOWEVER- we got married at a very easy to find, clearly marked country club that has ample free parking. The entrances were clearly marked and we also had ushers at the entrances to direct people to the appropriate area.
I think it would be different in an urban area with limited parking or a lesser known obscure venue.
Post # 5
Our venue is a little tricky to find, so I put in for a half hour buffer. The music will begin at exactly the time listed on the invite, and there will be lemonaide, ice tea, and a signature cocktail available for guests. Almost like a pre-cocktail half hour!
Post # 6
@mjoyelle: That is exactly what we did and for the same amount of time.
Post # 7
We will be starting on time (4PM). If you are not there, you’re SOL–this includes bridal party.
Post # 8
Our venue is a bit odd…we have the building booked from 5pm on, but that literally means doors open at 5, no guests are allowed in early. So we really do need a buffer just to give people time to get seated. The invite will say 5pm, but it will really start at 5:15.
Post # 9
@weddingmaven: We’re saying 6:45 but not starting the ceremony till 7.
Post # 10
@weddingmaven: I hate to sound snarky but isn’t it the guest’s job to figure in some wiggle room so they get to your wedding on time? Honestly, I’ve never been late to a wedding. If I don’t know where it is, I leave PLENTY of extra time to get there. If I am late, man oh man do I have pie on my face.
As an on-time guest, I would be perturbed to sit and wait for the wedding to start if I got there before the invitation stated. I find that rude. However, this is the first I’ve heard of the practice so perhaps I’m out of the loop after all.
Post # 11
@LilRhodyGem: +1 Amen, sista!
@Kit_Kath: Gotta say, this would really confuse me as a guest. If your invites said 5 and the building didn’t open until 5, and I got there at 4:45 and the doors were locked, I’d think I was in the wrong place…
Post # 12
My aunts, of all people, decided to be 10-15 mins late. We waited as long as we could (about 10 mins) and started without them. They got there in time to see most of the ceremony from the back.
Post # 13
Honestly, I think it’s rude to list a start time on your invites and then purposfully plan to start after that. Many guests show up to the ceremony 15+ minutes early. It’s not very nice to make them wait even longer. Trust them to show up on time.
However, if traffic is particularly bad on your wedding day, you can have the officient make an announcement saying you will delay the ceremony start time. That way you can wait for stragglers but you won’t offend guests.
Post # 14
Our venue actually requires it. Our ceremony starts at 4 and the invites are to state 3:30 to give time for everyone to get there
Post # 15
We will start on time. We’d maybe wait 5 minutes max. But I expect people to plan to arrive in time if I’ve told them a start time. If they are late, oh well.
Post # 16
It IS the guest’s job and of course it’s never rude to start on time! But on the host side, I think it can be a good idea to build in some extra time. We supplied a few light refreshments during that time, as recommended by the venue. Ceremony and reception were in the same place.
On the flip side, I always have to remind people from around here that out of town it is not uncommon for ceremonies to start RIGHT on time.