Buffer time between invitation start time and actual ceremony

posted 3 years ago in Ceremony
  • poll: Did (or will) you have any buffer time between ceremony start time vs invitation time?
    No, we walked( or plan to walk) down that aisle right on time, or just about : (55 votes)
    51 %
    We gave (or will give)a 5-15 minute buffer : (37 votes)
    34 %
    We gave (or will give) a 15-30 minute buffer : (16 votes)
    15 %
    Our guests are never on time! We gave (or will give) more than 30 minutes. : (0 votes)
  • Post # 3
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    756 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: September 2013

    My photographer requested 30 minutes, but I’m not sure how I feel about that…

    Post # 4
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    5460 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: August 2012

    We did not have a buffer- HOWEVER- we got married at a very easy to find, clearly marked country club that has ample free parking.  The entrances were clearly marked and we also had ushers at the entrances to direct people to the appropriate area.

    I think it would be different in an urban area with limited parking or a lesser known obscure venue.

    Post # 5
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    505 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    Our venue is a little tricky to find, so I put in for a half hour buffer.  The music will begin at exactly the time listed on the invite, and there will be lemonaide, ice tea, and a signature cocktail available for guests.  Almost like a pre-cocktail half hour!

    Post # 7
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    11300 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: August 2013

    We will be starting on time (4PM). If you are not there, you’re SOL–this includes bridal party.

    Post # 8
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    1327 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: April 2014

    Our venue is a bit odd…we have the building booked from 5pm on, but that literally means doors open at 5, no guests are allowed in early.  So we really do need a buffer just to give people time to get seated.  The invite will say 5pm, but it will really start at 5:15.

    Post # 9
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    1436 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: July 2013

    @weddingmaven:  We’re saying 6:45 but not starting the ceremony till 7.

    Post # 10
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    3735 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: September 2014

    @weddingmaven:  I hate to sound snarky but isn’t it the guest’s job to figure in some wiggle room so they get to your wedding on time? Honestly, I’ve never been late to a wedding. If I don’t know where it is, I leave PLENTY of extra time to get there. If I am late, man oh man do I have pie on my face.

    As an on-time guest, I would be perturbed to sit and wait for the wedding to start if I got there before the invitation stated. I find that rude. However, this is the first I’ve heard of the practice so perhaps I’m out of the loop after all.

    Post # 11
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    2209 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: May 2014

    @LilRhodyGem:  +1  Amen, sista!

    @Kit_Kath: Gotta say, this would really confuse me as a guest.  If your invites said 5 and the building didn’t open until 5, and I got there at 4:45 and the doors were locked, I’d think I was in the wrong place…

    Post # 12
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    10384 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: September 2010

    My aunts, of all people, decided to be 10-15 mins late. We waited as long as we could (about 10 mins) and started without them. They got there in time to see most of the ceremony from the back.

    Post # 13
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    2642 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    Honestly, I think it’s rude to list a start time on your invites and then purposfully plan to start after that.  Many guests show up to the ceremony 15+ minutes early.  It’s not very nice to make them wait even longer.  Trust them to show up on time.

    However, if traffic is particularly bad on your wedding day, you can have the officient make an announcement saying you will delay the ceremony start time.  That way you can wait for stragglers but you won’t offend guests.

    Post # 14
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    484 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: November 2013

    Our venue actually requires it. Our ceremony starts at 4 and the invites are to state 3:30 to give time for everyone to get there

    Post # 15
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    10748 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: February 2014

    We will start on time. We’d maybe wait 5 minutes max. But I expect people to plan to arrive in time if I’ve told them a start time. If they are late, oh well. 

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