Post # 1
Does anyone feel like a buffet at a wedding is tacky or looks cheap? I was going back and forth with my soon to be husband about this subject.
The place we are looking at is a little pricy for sit down and its going way over our budget however the buffet option fits much better cost wise. When I asked if this was an issue with him he basically got a bit snotty and replied “I’ve never been to a wedding with a buffet” (in a Mr. Howell type voice)
The funny thing is my guy is like totally no frills, target & old navy fabulous…so I was kinda surprised of his reaction to my thought of even considering a buffet. I would prefer sit down, but our piggy bank is screaming buffet.
Post # 3
I don’t agree with you at all. I love buffets you get to try a bit of everyting.
Post # 4
I don’t think it’s tacky, but I prefer the sit-down meal. In my opinion, weddings are formal occasions, and I like the dinner to match. Plus, I hate trying to balance my food and not spill on myself in buffets. But also, like your FI, I don’t think I’ve ever been to a wedding with a buffet.
I do think buffets can be done well in general though, so I think it depends on the feel you’re going for. I wouldn’t do black tie and buffet, you know?
Post # 5
I think it depends on how big of a wedding you’re having. If I were at a wedding with 300 people and it took 2 hours to get through the buffet line, and by the time I got there the food was either cold or gone, I’d be pretty upset.
If it’s a smaller wedding, or you have two identical buffets or can use both sides of the buffet, I think the flow might go a bit better. I don’t think it’s rude or tasteless to have a buffet, but you may want to take into consideration those who may not be able to stand in line and/or carry their food to their table (think Gradma, 8 months pregnant sister, brother on crutches, etc… and have a back-up plan for them).
If it’s not common in your social circle to have a buffet, and plated meals are cost prohibitive, could you do something like family style dining?
Post # 6
Our wedding had a buffet, and people raved for months about how good our food was. So I think it’s the food that really matters, not how it’s served.
Additionally, almost every wedding I’ve ever been to had a buffet. I don’t think it’s tacky. Plus, I like getting to choose my own food. 🙂
Post # 7
I <3 buffets. Although I may be biased, because I’ve never been to a plated-dinner wedding.
Post # 8
- Wedding: March 2012 - Pelican Grand Beach Resort
I don’t think it’s “tacky” but I definitely think it changes the formality and is not as nice. I much prefer a sit-down, but if it isn’t in your budget, it isn’t. I’ve been married twice and for both weddings, the price of buffet and sit-down were the same, so we didn’t think twice about sit-down.
Post # 9
@abbie017: I think your right, black tie & buffet is not a good mix and I totally hate trying to balance food and make it back to my table without a disaster 🙂 BTW yay for March 16th!…I got engaged on March 16th
Post # 10
Very common in my area for buffet dinners at weddings…and they are very nice! The food is still good quality, and many times you get more choices which helps picky eaters. Actually, the buffet option is MORE at our venue, which is why we stayed with plated!
Post # 11
I prefer buffet and we had buffet at our wedding. I am a picky eater and like to pick what I have aon my plate. with a seated dinner i just get served a combination of things I usually leave certain things on my plate. A buffet allows me to only put foods on my plate that I like and to put more of one thing and less of another.
Post # 12
I don’t think there is anything wrong with it. I actually prefer it. I have been to many weddings with buffets and love that you get to choose what to eat rather than meat-side-veggies.They have always seemed to me to have the best food choices.
We will be having a buffet style and it also fits with our venue. Our venue is a privately owned ranch and to have a sit down served dinner we would have to hire servers, which at this point is an extra unecessary expense for us.
Post # 13
I don’t think buffets are tacky, necessarily, but I do think they’re a huge PITA at anything but the least formal of weddings and I don’t appreciate, as a guest, a buffet wedding. I don’t get all dressed up in my fanciness and high heels to be tottering across a dance floor that may or may not have had food spilled on it already with a plate full of food. I also don’t like the way it ends up working out- half the people are finished their meals before the other half even gets their food. Food is cold, at not-so-great buffets, by the time the last table gets up, if there’s even enough left (I was at a wedding where a lot of the guests were vegetarian once, and all the veggie and even the chicken-fish options were basically gone by the time ours, the last table, got up. I had all of three spears of asparagus and a couple baby potatoes to choose from).
Given, a lot of my issues with it depend on how it’s run, but I wouldn’t take a gamble with people being unable to eat or having to eat cold food at my own wedding, since wedding food kind of always seems to be a crap shoot to begin with.
Post # 14
I prefer buffet style. I get to put exactly how much I want of each dish and if I don’t want something, I don’t have to have it sitting on my plate waiting to be thrown away. I also like to be able to see the food before I make a choice between entrees.
Post # 15
I don’t have a preference “tacky” wise, but I prefer a sit down family style to a buffet. and I prefer both of those to a pre picked sit down.
With a pre picked sit down, you get what you get and that’s it. For picky eaters they may not eat a whole lot then they’re hungry the whole night. If you have family style or buffet style they can pick more of what they like. I prefer family style because it makes it easier for someone to have second if they really like one of the items.
Post # 16
I am having a very formal wedding and a buffet and no I wouldn’t consider them at all tacky (why do we use that word soooo much??).
The cons of buffet are that you have to wait around so if you have a larger guest count I can see how a plated dinner would be better.
The pros of a buffet and why we chose it is that everyone can pick and choose what they want to eat (and get seconds, thirds etc) rather than having only what is on the plate and possibly going hungry. Also, our reception is divided into two rooms with an open archway connecting the two so the buffet encourages flow and intermingling of everyone.
For us the buffet ended up being cheaper too which is a definite plus with less hassle as we don’t have to get everyone’s food order ahead of time. The buffet is also hosted in a seperate (and really gorgeous) room so the mentioned issues above don’t really apply.