Post # 1
So it looks like Boyfriend and I might end up building a house this fall (possibly done by Christmas, which blows my mind!). Am I insane to consider building a house and planning a wedding in the same 11 month period?
Yes, you’ll note we’re <span style=”text-decoration: underline;”>still not engaged. I thought this weekend had potential… then his mom decided to visit.
Post # 3
My fiance and I just finished our house that we built last month. I would not recommend doing both at the same time. It was very tough on our relationship. Now that our house is finished our relationship is much stronger than it was before but there were times that I didn’t think we would make it to the wedding. A project like building a house seems to magnify problems that are already there, even the problems that you don’t know are there. If you do decide to build your house while planning the wedding I wish you all the luck in the world. It is an exciting time but it is also VERY stressful.
Post # 4
We did it (are currently?) We got engaged 3/27, FI took me to the builder to LOOK and see what we thought, well we signed a contract 3/31 and got married July 4th. Still in the building process and that is more stressful than anything. Well because we have ran into problems and should be half way through the build now but are not and I dont know how fast everyone elses houses went up but if it is not done by 12/1 we lose first time home buyers tax credit. I will be PO’d if I lose that!
It just all depends on how well you handle and tackle things togethor. DH and I dont get stressed with each other over anything nor did the wedding intefere bc we had a very small ceremony bc we rather put the money into the house. Some days I want to kill the builders some days he does. Whomever is stressed that day, the other keeps them calm. It is stressful but so much fun! We went and bought our first mailbox the other day with his parents and they want to take pictures of it standing with us just like they did when the first got married 30 years ago and built their first house! Just take it one day at a time!