Building a life without my future husband's family…What is a girl to think?

posted 2 years ago in Family
Post # 2
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Blushing bee

will you be working or a stay at home wife?

Post # 3
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

2good:  What difference would that make?

Dee110:  For the time being, I would count your blessings and hope that your FI can overcome his upbringing and stay open and honest with you.

I’m not sure what the time frame is, but they may come around when they see that you are united as a couple and that he is not coming crawling back despite their nastiness.

Post # 4
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Blushing bee

The reason for my question Op is because based on your post dealing with a real estate transaction, I am getting the feeling the FI family thinks you want their or their son money. errors due to android.

Post # 5
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Wannabee
  • Wedding: September 2010

I didn’t read all of that novel but I can tell you be thankful. Better that your future kids don’t have a relationship with them if they are that toxic. you sound way too nice. 

Post # 6
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Blushing bee

sorry for the hijack Op, but does anyone know how to block another bee? Can this be done?

Post # 8
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Blushing bee

I somehow got that feeling that is what the family sees you as, I dont know why. Does the family know about your credentials? I dont understand why they do not like you. You said someone from his family said about how your mom raised you. are you from a single parent household?

Post # 10
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

2good:  sorry for the hijack Op, but does anyone know how to block another bee? Can this be done?

No. If it could , we would.

Post # 11
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

Is your Fi really on your side? Is he willing to cut contact with his family for you?  Can you have a happy marriage when you were expected to prove yourself from the very beginning?  I don’t think I could live like that. 

Post # 13
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Blushing bee

It is unfair why people treat us the way we do. sometimes people dont like us and dont have a decent reason not to like us, it could be for a variety of reasons, obesity, crooked teeth, acne, different hair color, education level, age, born out of wedlock, single parent the list goes on. 

Did you know that studies have proven that people who bully others actually have low self esteem about theirself? Hard to believe, but true.

 

we must find and surround ourself with people who accept us just the way we are. I would rather have one person who loved me, even if it meant having self love. You have two: yourself and your FI

Post # 15
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Blushing bee

Dee110:  Now we have the reason and no it is not fair.

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