Post # 1
. . . because SO asked today how I would feel if the proposal didn’t come during March. Even though he’s been telling me for months that March was THE month. I was positively giddy this morning when I woke up just because THE month was finally here.
I won’t lie; I didn’t take the news very well. I’ve told all of my friends and all of you ladies on the Bee that March is the month, I’ve started planning with him, and have been in a saving frenzy for the past 6 months. He was immediately concerned that the delay would translate into me thinking that he didn’t want to propose, period and did everything he could to assure me that was not the case and the he was just as disappointed as I was. He told me that he thinks we’re perfect, our relationship is perfect, and he just wants the proposal to be just as perfect and he doesn’t think the timing and finances will work out by the end of the month. Who knew him being a romantic could bum me out so much???
I’m not doubting that he wants to propose, but I don’t want to see the inevitable looks on people’s faces as March draws to a close and there’s still no ring I know I’ll look like a silly fool.
Now he’s saying April for sure, but I’m having trouble believing him whole-heartedly – I just don’t want to get let down again. I just need some love & support from my other waiting Bees. . .
Post # 3
Awe I am sorry I know how much that sucks! I got promised April and it didn’t happen until August.
However, what I can tell you that it is well worth the wait ;-)…. but at the same time I know that means nothing to you right now … I have been there!!!!!!!!
Post # 4
I’m sorry, that sucks! I waited a long time for my proposal, and it’s totally worth it! It sounds like he’s a really great guy, and he wants to do things when it’s the right time. That probably won’t help much now, but believe me! It’s worth the wait- especially when they’ve put so much time and consideration into it! 🙂
Post # 5
*hugs* I’m sorry you;re bummed out! Maybe he’s trying to throw you off since you were do excited about MArch and he wants to surprise you? I know you’ve been waiting for a long time. Even if April is the new month, at least it’s not next year, right?
Post # 6
Awww, hugs! I know how that feels – but when it does happen, it will be magical and it’s great that he’s putting so much energy into it! Just keep on keepin on and hold your head up! No one will think you’re foolish…I mean, honestly, with this economy, it’s tough times for everyone! 🙂 You’ve got lots of support here in the hive, so smile for us!
Post # 7
Thank you ladies SO much; I feel better after all of your positive comments and @His Barista – you’re totally right, April is not next year at all Thank you all for the support; this is exactly I why <3 the hive
Post # 8
sorry, lady, but at least it sounds like he wants to do something really special for you. that’s very sweet. Waiting can be so hard that even just a month feels like forever, but at the very least you know it’s coming soon! good luck 🙂
Post # 9
My thought is with HisBarista too…maybe he’s doing this to throw you off so that you won’t be expecting it in March now. My thought is to put the engagement completely out of your head and enjoy your relationship right now. I know it’s difficult and so much easier said than done, but if you focus on the things that are making you happy right now, you won’t think about the engagement so much. And, you won’t be telling your friends that it’s going to be April now. Just sit back, relax and let him propose
Post # 10
I had something very similar happen to me. We had agreed on our 7 year anniversary (which was Nov 1st, 2008) that we would get engaged within a year. A year went by, and nothing. I ran my first marathon in October and my friends were going through his bag while watching the race because they were convinced that he was going to propose… and he didn’t. And then the anniversary passed, and nothing. I decided to wait through the holidays and then I would have to say something about how upset I was that we weren’t engaged. I’m glad I waited and didn’t start a huge fight, because right before Christmas he popped the question and it was perfect.
No matter how many times I told him I didn’t care about an expensive ring (and I don’t– my Engagement Ring is a lovely white sapphire instead of a diamond– cheaper, my birthstone and not feeding into the diamond indistry), and I just wanted to get married, he had to do it his way. The waiting is so frustrating, but inthe end, it’s better to be frustrated and still have the guy you want to spend the rest of your life with than to give he an ultimatum and lose him on principle.
Hang in there!
Post # 11
i TOTALLY understand what you are going through. march was supposed to be my month too and now im pretty sure its not going to be. It gets me down because i feel like the proposal keeps getting pushed back. im doing my best to keep my mind off it and just let it happen when its supposed to but its hard….hey at least all of us on here have each other to wait in agony with ha ha 🙂