Post # 1
My FI’s cousin is one of the groomsmen in our wedding and I asked his GF to be a bridesmaid (they have been dating for 8 years). Well…….. she just broke up with him today…. 2 days before their anniversary!!!! WTH!!!!! And right before Christmas!!! My FI’s cousin is so heartbroken, he called my FI crying. I feel so bad for him, he loved her so much and we thought she really loved him. We are all in shock, and now I am down a bridesmaid. This sucks.
Post # 3
Maybe she was whining about a ring, gave him an ultimatum and when he didn’t act on it, she ditched him? Maybe he didn’t believe she’d leave if he didn’t come through on a ring? What reason did she give him? There has to be some reason!
Post # 4
Oh no! Poor him!
But, just like BanditGirl, the first thing I thought was maybe she wanted him to commit and he wouldn’t. Hopefully it all works out.
Post # 5
I agree with the other bees, feels like she really wanted a ring. I’m sure your wedding also may have put pressure on him to propose already!
Post # 6
It could be for a whole host of reasons! Just because we’re all wedding-ed up, doesn’t mean the rest of the world is. I just don’t think it’s useful for anyone to speculate on the OP’s fiance’s cousin’s ex-girlfriend’s motivations.
I hope you are able to support your fiance’s cousin during his relationship breakdown.
Post # 7
That really sucks!! Im sorry 🙁 I have my fiance’s brothers’ girlfriend in my wedding and that was always in the back of my mind! So far so good….they are still going strong! But it would really suck if she broke up with him 🙁 So I totally understand how you feel!
Post # 8
Why are you out a Bridesmaid? Were you not really friends with her?
Post # 9
ya i didn’t get she wanted a ring from that story! plus if she did, wouldn’t make sense to wait until after their anniversary as that would be a good time to propose? maybe she ruined it for herself!
i also wonder why do you have to be out a BM? i mean i wouldn’t jump to that conclusion. i get there could be awkwardness and all that, but your wedding is 11 months away. lots of time to figure things out.
Post # 10
I wouldn’t be upset until you hear her side… eight years is a really long time to date with no ring. Plus, you don’t have to be out a bridesmaid. If you legitimately like her, why not keep her in the wedding party? They can both put on their big boy pants and deal with each other for the day.
Post # 11
You also never know if they are just having their own “tiff” and will get back together… they just may be working through something. Your wedding is a little less than a year away – you never know what will happen!
Post # 12
@BanditGirl: No, it had nothing to do with a her wanting a proposal. She got offered a job in Alabama or something and she told him that she was just going to break up with him so he didn’t have to decide if he wanted to go or not. This whole thing was very unlike her so we are all a little confused on the whole situation.
@Talishazwi: I was friends with her but I just couldn’t have her in the wedding when my FI’s cousin is also in the wedding, his cousin is more important.
@dynamic_duo: right, that’s why I don’t think she did it because she didn’t get a proposal. I already had a hard enough time getting BM’s because my FI hated the idea of uneven sides and I just do not have that many close friends that I would want in my wedding just to fill the spaces, ya know?!
They are both really young (21) and had been together since they were 12 or so, they haven’t really every taken time to themselves, this will be good for them I think.