- 5 years ago
- Wedding: August 2013
I feel guilty writing this, because there were people that put so much time and effort into my bachelorette…but it just didn’t turn out the way I had hoped. I tried to go into it without any expectations, but it was just sad. I invited a small number of girls because I thought around 10 would be a good number for going out…not too hard to get a table, etc. Well I didn’t really think through the fact that two of the girls are significant others of my fiances friends. So since the husbands were going to my fiance’s the girls had to take care of babies/dogs etc. A third friend couldn’t come because she had another wedding that night to attend, a fourth friend got a bug bite on her leg that got infected. One was coming back from Europe that day and her flight was delayed. All that was left were my four friends, my sister, my fiance’s three sisters. Two friends only stayed for dinner, and the other two came out for one drink. So all my friends couldn’t come or had to leave. It was just me, my sister and my three soon to be sister-in-laws. I couldn’t help but feel embarassed. They tried to be crazy so that I wouldn’t feel bad…but I just felt pittied. I just wish I had known so many people RSVPd no so I could extend the invite to some others, or change the date. We ended up going out for one drink at a gay bar, then walking towards another bar…when someone realized that it was an 18+ bar. My poor sister (maid of honor) just moved here so when looking clubs up, had no idea they were 18+. We ended up just standing outside forever trying to think of where to go. I finally suggested going to a dueling piano bar I had heard was fun. Well when we got there the cover was $10 (after paying $10 at the first place) so that’s when those last two friends decided to go home. I was bummed but we paid to go in cause no one knew where else to go….it was so LAME. The place was not packed at all and they were playing boring sad songs. Before you know it people were yawning and checking their phones. We ended up just going back to the hotel after that. I was really sad, and especially mad at myself cause I had suggested the place. I basically ruined my own party. I’m trying to be positive, but I just feel like I had a party that no one came to. There really were some amazing fun parts. My three sister-in-laws to be decorated the hotel room and were super fun to be around all night. My sister made me an amazing sash and got me a pedicure. I just feel sad because they all put so much effort in and I ruined it by not having friends and suggesting a crappy bar. It just brings up old feelings like I’m in middle school and no one showed up to my birthday party again. UGH! I need to get over this because my wedding is THIS Saturday. I just keep wondering if people will cancel or leave early from our wedding too. I’m sad….you don’t get a do over on these things. Plus, I’ve been putting on a good face because I can’t imagine hurting my sister’s feelings.
To put salt in the wound my fiance had the most epic weekend of his life. He was out until 4am two nights in a row, went to strip clubs and all kinds of bars, and even came home with a Hannah Montana cardboard cut out. It just makes me even more sad….I’m trying to just be happy for him, which I am because I love him and I’m glad he had fun….but it’s hard.
Did anyone else have a similar experience? How did you let it go? I don’t feel excited at all for my upcoming wedding which is not right. I need to let this go!