(Closed) Bummed about the DISTANCE

posted 5 years ago in Long Distance Relationships
Post # 3
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235 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

Could you take a semester off so that your schooling is aligned? Or take other classes that are related but are not the ONE that you need so that you could go with him for the Fall? Then you could take the one class that you need over winter break or spring semester next year, although that would put you behind in your schooling.  Or could you take it via correspondence while you were there in the Fall? That’s the only way I can think of that you could work it to go together.

Otherwise, I’ve been in an LDR for 6 years, and we only see each other once a year. (We are on completely different continents, and it’s very expensive to travel back and forth) It’s a bit of a different situation because we are not used to seeing each other for longer than a couple of months at a time, but that doesn’t make it any less hard. I don’t blame you for being super bummed about being separated for that length of time, much less right after getting married *hugs* But at least you will have a set date for return, which is always helpful, and the Internet for chatting and if you’ve graduated, you will probably be looking for a job? It will suck, but you just need to remember that it is temporary and that it will be worth it because when it’s over, you will have him back for good ๐Ÿ™‚

To cope while he’s gone, make sure you keep busy and try to stay positive. Take time for you, don’t isolate yourself- be sure to get out and do things with friends and family, even if seeing other people together makes you miss him. Plan dates with him to meet for Skype, if you are able. You can put together care packages to send via snail mail, and go take pictures of his favorite things to put together to send or share online. And when you talk, try not to let the talk about how much you miss each other dominate the conversation because it’s easy to get negative that way. I had a countdown calendar on my desktop so I could see how much longer it would be until I would see him, and that also helped me. And we would plan out all the things we were going to do when we would be together. He’ll also have a lot of new experiences to share, which will be good ๐Ÿ™‚

It’s not easy, but you can do it!!   Good luck!!

Post # 5
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

My DH proposed right before I did a 6 month tour in Afghanistan.  I was there for 3 months then home for 3 weeks for my HLTA and then gone for another 3 months.  It was hard.  He was able to call me whenever I was logged into Skype but other than that there was no way to get a hold of me.  I called him as much as I could and we talked for as long as we could. 

You guys will have to try and work out a schedule on when you will talk because with an 8 hour time difference (give or take) it makes it a little bit more difficult to keep in touch.

Another thing that will help out is local support.  Spending as much time you can with friends and family will help.  Hang in there.  You’ll get through it.

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