Post # 1
I love my FI and can’t wait to marry him. However, today I realized a disadvantage of being with someone 8 years older. He’s already experienced life, while I’m just starting that process (he’s 31, I’m 24). Not to mention, he had those experiences with an ex who I hate, but that’s another issue. I guess I’m just bummed that I don’t get to experience that stuff with him, but rather on my own. I want to be spontaneous and do things, while he’s more rational and concerned with money. He says it’s because he’s gotten older :/
He says I make him feel young again and we act like kids a lot,, but I feel kind of lonely when I’m going through something and it’s no big deal to him because he’s been there done that. Plus my friends my age live far away.
Post # 3
I hear you. When I was 30 I dated a 42 year old that was divorced with a daughter. I was at the point where I wanted to get married and start a family and he wasn’t – been there, done that, no rush to do it again. That didn’t last more than a few months. But since you’re engaged I hope you kind find a middle ground!
Post # 4
@newcitylights: When I clicked on this thread I thought he was going to be in his 60s! LOL .31 is still young. Sounds like you found yourself a great guy…who’s rational and money wise . Think of the alternative
Post # 5
@newcitylights: My FI is older than me too, and I am sooo much more spontaneous. It can be difficult sometimes, but then I sit and remember that isn’t the reason why I love him. I just had to accept that if we were going to go and experience anything, then I would have to be the one who was in charge of it. He’s already done so much that I will never get the chance to do. So you kinda just have to make new stuff happen!
Post # 6
@newcitylights: NO worries…Mr. 99 is 8 years older than I am and TRUST me, just because your older than someone does not mean you can’t learn things from them….I actually like how calm and collected he is about certain issues, it’s comforting to have someone that’s been to that rodeo before…and sure, he’s got a lot of experience under his belt, what he lacks is experiencing things with me…I can still teach that old dog new tricks!
Post # 7
Im 22 & my FI is 29, He’s been around the block a few times in a few areas but with me its always a new experience. When we do something he did before with someone else, he always says its new to him because we’re doing it together. If you feel that way i think you should share that with him. No matter age difference, hes your bestfriend. Share all feelings with him espically if youre feeling lonely and like you cant do certain things with him. & my FI is the same way about money.. but we all have to live.. sometimes ill just book a trip for us out of the blue.. if we have the money of course and he wont complaint about it. When we did the money wont come with us.. is what i tell him all the time. 🙂 Best of luck!