Post # 1
I am feeling mixed emotions right now…met with my event designer/planner last night and she had THE MOST amazing inspiration photos and a stunning vision for my wedding day…BUTTTT when I showed her our budget she kind of insinuated we may want to be a little more flexible. Our budget is literally ALL we can afford we both work 9-5s and make well over 50k a year. BUT we ARE trying to buy a house and that would decrease our disposable income (which we would POUR 100% into wedding costs) so now I am considering getting a 2nd job but FI and I are veryyyyy social! We have a lot of friends and are always being invited places left and right, our weekends are always booked weeks in advance with events we must attend, etc, etc. So if I get a 2nd job I will be DEAD tired during my 9-5, and my social life will be in a coma for the next 9 months. What do you guys think? It’s worth it for the wedding of my dreams right?? Or am I just being vain and a wedding shouldnt mean this much sacrifice??
Post # 3
I personally wouldn’t do it. What is your current budget? How much of your salaries are you putting into savings? Is there something else you could cut back on instead?
If it were for a house I’d say go for it- but for a wedding…I’m sure it will be beautiful regardless.
Post # 4
I am assuming that these social events include spending money? Maybe you can scale back on how many events you attend, and instead, put the money towards the wedding. You would probably save more than you would taking on a second job
Or, instead of going out to a movie, stay in and rent one, and stash the rest of the money you would have spent. Cook at home with friends instead of going out to eat, and stash the extra cash you would have spent
Post # 5
Honestly, I would not get a second job. This is just my opinion, but I’d rather have 9 months of hanging out with my friends and partner, being able to do the things I like, than have one perfect evening.
This might be over the top, but I try to think of it, like, if I happen to die at the end of the year/day after my wedding, which would have made me happier? The answer is different for everybody – good luck deciding what to do!
Post # 6
If the wedding really means that much to you, then yes, I’d get a second job to fund it. It’s only 9 months. It would be worse to me to go through the wedding, then regret not doing it and having this or that than to work my ass off for 9 month and to think maybe it wasnt worth it. At least you know you did it and you can have your life right back after the wedding.
Personally, I couldnt do it for a wedding though since I’m a compulsive saver. Imagine if you were to be a zombie for 9 months to make money and put it toward the house or savings, how much more comfortable it would be to have that extra cushion.
Post # 7
Hmm, thisi is a hard decision, it will basically come down to what you want more, the pricier wedding or your social life?
I had a 2nd job as a waitress a few years ago and actually really enjoyed it, since it was completely different than my 9-5 desk job. What made my 2nd job possible was that the restaurant closed at 10pm, so it allowed me to meet up with friends afterwards. Also, I only worked about 15 hours a week there. But that 15 hours brought in about another $200-$300.
Post # 8
Wow!! THISSSSS IS why I love the Bee!!!
@accorn: Our budget is around 30k but we are having 500 guests 🙁 so we have to stretch it alot further than others. We put a good amount into savings but still dont know if it will be enough
@MrsSl82be: YES! These events are VERY expensive, so you are right maybe I could just lay low ANYway and stick to FREE events. But then nobody wants to hear that you arent coming out b/c you dont have the money
@JenniBride: That is a good way to think about it…and I think I would more than likely die happy if I knew I had the wedding of my dreams, lol…I am DEFintely on of those girls in ur 4th grade class that was drawing pictures of herself in a wedding gown.
@pinkshoes: I am SOOO jealous! I wish I could save like that, I am a compulsive spender, lmaoo! I’ve been working since I was 17…I am 24 now….I could probably pay for my entire wedding upfront instead of payment plans, smdh. If only I was a better saver
Post # 9
@nickels: REALLY!! I would sooooo do that! Which restaurant did you work in?? I DEF considered being a waitress but I want to work somewhere with decent tips b/c if I could pull in that $300 that would be AMAZING! My FI thinks I would be a horrible waitress because I do terrible with high stress situations, lolll! But I think I would enjoy it b/c much like you my 9-5 desk job leaves a lot to be desired in realm of human interaction, loll!