Post # 1
So I feel kind of silly for bringing this issue up, but it’s really bumming me out.
I have been close to my MOH for 8 years now. She is actually my FI’s cousin and how we met. He’s also close to her husband. The 4 of us used to do a lot together – dinners, go on trips, etc. They just got married last summer and I was her MOH. She is my MOH for our wedding in September. Lately, I feel like she’s distanced herself from me. I stop myself from asking her questions or bringing up the wedding because I feel like it annoys her. It even seems like it’s a hassle when we ask them to hang out any more.. I know all of our lives are busy, but I really need/want someone close to talk to about this wedding because 1. she’s been through it, and 2. who doesn’t need a g/f to talk to about things you can’t talk to your FI about. I asked her to be my MOH because she was my closest friend and really wanted her to be there for me on that day. Now, I’m wondering if she is regretting saying yes…
I don’t want to cause drama and I know it’s silly, but I feel like if it’s true and she doesn’t want to continue as my MOH, I would want to know instead of walking on eggshells…
Would you bring up this topic to her if you were me? And how would you approach it?
Post # 3
I know how you feel 🙁 My best friend resigned as my MOH because she was getting married a month before me and “Can’t afford to come/Doesn’t want to leave her new husband so soon after marrying him” (In reality, (I got it out of her in so many words) she was pissed because I changed my date from September to July and had a venue booked before she did and she wanted to be “first”).
I’m still in her wedding and it’s super awkward and kinda sad, but that’s another story -_-
Your best bet and my advice would be to be honest with her. Tell her you feel like she’s checked out of the process and you need her to be there for you… Not in a bridezilla way, but because she’s your friend and you need support. I’m sure if you’ve been friends that long she’ll understand.
Post # 4
I would definitely talk to her. Just ask her what’s going on and hopefully she can be honest with you about her feelings.
It may come down to her not being that person who is super excited about your wedding, but she may still want to be MOH. Even though you may have very involved in hers – none of my friends (while I know they cared) were super duper excited.
Do you have realistic expectations about what you desire from her? What is she not doing that you want her to?
Post # 5
I would just tell her what you said here: you feel like she is distant lately from wedding plans and hanging out and you want to know if there is anything wrong. It sounds like she might want a break from all the wedding stuff, or she might have something else bothering her altogether.