Post # 1
I love summer. Living in Seattle, summer is the precious time that makes the months of rain feel worth it-it is SO beautiful here during the summer. However, this summer is proving to be a real headache. I’m in job woes, we’re living in a tiny apartment that my FI is allergic to, I had a huge falling out with my great friend and old roommate, barely have any $ and then spending so much time doing wedding stuff.
My FI sometimes says when we’re out with friends that we’re not doing anything fun this summer because of the wedding, but the fact is that he’s gone camping and surfing on the coast TWICE already this summer AND is planning a big surf trip with his buddies as his bachelor party. He really wanted me to come along on the trip but I couldn’t commit to it because of my uncertain job situation. It was a sweet gesture, but he’s better off going just with his buddies. Besides, I suck at surfing!!!
In the meantime, I’m not doing much but wedding related things- from doing invites to picking a dress, traveling with my mom to make plans, etc. It is fun doing it and I’m thrilled for our upcoming wedding, but it certainly isn’t carefree fun, you know? The thing that broke me was when a friend left me a message asking if we wanted to go on a weekend kayaking trip for the 4th like we did last year and it was SO FUN. BUT WE CAN’T BECAUSE we are driving all the way to Idaho this weekend, for ONE NIGHT, so that his parents can officially meet mine (they are very traditional, his parents).
I asked my FI to not make these comments about not doing things in the summer, because he’s done a lot and will do more. I don’t mean to sound whiney, but I’m just a little peeved about the whole thing. He asks what he can help with, but I don’t really know what to tell him, because I want to pick out my shoes and things like that, ya know?
Anybody else feel this way sometimes? Just… grumpy?
Post # 3
I have had some days where I couldn’t wait for the wedding to be over with so we could do more things. But financially you have to make some sacrifices to pay for a wedding. We got lucky and my parents rented a cottage for a week in August, so we get to go up there for free. But you should pick a weekend that you have nothing planned and go on a camping trip. If you budget it right, it wouldn’t be too costly. Or why don’t you call your friend and see if they would do a kayaking trip another weekend?
I hope I helped
Post # 4
Thanks LoveH. It is helpful just to vent and get some encouragement. I think there were a few weeks with lots of intense planning and then we should be smooth sailing for the next few months. I’m def. planning a fun camping trip soon! 🙂
Post # 5
Could you maybe just take a day for the two of you and go somewhere close by? I don’t know if you like vineyard tours but there are a bunch right outside of Seattle. I went to Chateau Ste Michele with my friend from Seattle last year and it was SO relaxing and fun. Maybe you don’t have to do anything big or costly but just take a day and relax together and do something out of the ordinary – with NO wedding talk allowed!
Post # 6
Oh my gosh, we’re in this same kind of pickle (except I’m the one that keeps saying to our friends that we can’t do anything fun because of the wedding, haha). We go on a LOT of camping and canoe trips in the summer, Minnesota is so awesome for it, but this year it’s been cut way way down because of different weekends being taken up for showers, other people’s weddings, projects we need to get done, and trying desperately to save all the vacation time we can to use for our honeymoon.
The most heartbreaking is that for the past couple years we’ve had an annual canoe trip in the Boundary Waters and this year it’s literally only 3 days long because we can’t manage to do more.
To keep us both sane during the process, we’ve got big plans in the works to spend a month canoeing the BWCA next summer and a few other big trips. It’s definitely sad to be missing out on things we’d usually do in the summer, but we just keep reminding each other it’s just this one year. We’ll look back on 2009 as a really boring summer, but we’ve got good ones ahead for the rest of our lives!