- 3 years ago
- Wedding: April 2014
I have five bridesmaids, and all but one are from out of state. We’re all pretty good about keeping in contact – I have a secret facebook group where I keep them all updated with what I’m doing, and ask for their advice. I talk to each of them probably about once every two weeks or so.
All except one…
This bridesmaid was one of my good friends up in college. We roomed together, hung out together, and got along fabulously. After I graduated, I moved back home to be with FI. We still kept in touch, and it was all good.
But lately, I can’t seem to get ahold of her! A few months ago, she was excited about coming down to visit me, only to cancel the week of. Bummer, yeah, but I got over it. I love her, but I know that she can be a little flakey but with good intentions.
But then, I start finding out things from my other bridesmaids (who live near her) about all this major stuff going on in her life that I had no clue was going on. The other maids asked her why she didn’t want to talk to me about it, being one of her good friends (so I thought), and she said she didn’t want to bother me. I’ve told her again and again that talking to her is never a bother!
I kept trying to contact her for months, and could only get her to text me back occasionally. I figure she’s busy with all the crazy stuff going on in her life, and so I give her some space. We had promised to call each other one particular weekend, and I called…and texted…and called…and never got a response back. I asked one of my friends up there if she had her phone on her, and my friend told me that her new boyfriend (whom I had no idea existed) had a death in the family and so she had gone with him to support him.
And I get being busy, and I get that it was probably a sudden thing and she forgot to call me or mention it, but it’s still a major bummer. In the time since, I’ve tried to get in contact with her any way I can – texting, calling, facebook – but it seems like she isn’t interested.
I miss talking to my buddy, bees. And (pardon my french) it’s kind of shitty to have a bridesmaid that doesn’t put the effort in to talk to you.
Any advice? Should I just stop being so sensitive and get over it?