Post # 1
- Wedding: October 2015 - Drury Lane Oakbrook
I’ve been working as a Food Scientist for about 10 years now, and up to this point I have liked it. There have been challenges and it certainly is not a glamorous job, but I get to develop new products and see them on the grocery store shelf, which is pretty rewarding. But I feel like there has been a shift in me and I just can’t stand doing this work anymore. I think a lot of it has to do with just the Corporate world in general and the office politics.
I just started my current job 5 months ago. I had to leave my last down because they shut down my office and wanted to relocate everyone to Dallas, so I found a job in Chicago (my hometown) and moved back here from Denver, where I had lived for 10 years. My fiance came with me, I was closer to family, and this new job at a MUCH larger company sounded like the absolute dream on paper. I was so incredibly happy and felt so fortunate!
But 4 months later, I had to get on Prozac just to get myself out of bed in the morning. At work I’ve been told I’m under-performing, but I believe it’s because they have a certain way of doing things here that I was never trained on. I also have no friends here. There are space constraints so my desk is far away from the rest of the people in my work group. I feel very isolated, especially since I went from an office with 25 people to an office of 400 people. I spend all of my time in meetings, and very little time being creative, which is what I thought I was hired to do. I often wonder what it is that I’m doing with my life. I want to get out and actually make a difference in the world, and I can’t do that sitting in meetings constantly.
Honestly, I want to go back to school to become a nurse. I’ve even started researching nursing programs. But I make good money now and I’m afraid of making that leap back to full time student. I know life is too short to stay in a job you hate, but it’s so incredibly terrifying to leave behind something you’ve been doing for over 10 years.
Post # 2
Maybe this can help you
After high school I went to university for a couple years and dropped out – I was more interested in making money!
I started working at my current employer and moved up to management making what I would consider great money! But, I was stuck. I hated my job, literally. There were times I took sick days cause I was sick of the job. I sat in a meeting one day and decided to go back to school to study law (that had always been my passion). Fast-forward 5 years and I’m still in school but it was the BEST decision I’ve ever made. I still have quite a few years left but I am so much happier
Now, I’m not sure of your financial obligations but I say if you can then DO IT! No regrets! You can always fall back to your current degree if it doesnt work out!
I don’t have any kids or obligations of such.. I am engaged now and financially it’s not super easy but I say “short term pain for longterm gain”
Post # 3
- Wedding: October 2015 - Drury Lane Oakbrook
MeandMyLouboutins: Thank you, that does help. I’m 33 as well.
My Fiance makes less than I do, but still a decent amount. He has said he will support us, I’m just worried about the financial strain since we both have some debt to pay off (Oh, and that $20,000 party we’re throwing next year too doesn’t help!). Also, this company paid to relocate me so I’m not sure is I would need to pay back those relocation costs if I left so soon.
My parents both worked in healthcare and they both know how I feel and they are supportive. I know if things got too hard financially they would help. I just really need to build up the courage.
Post # 4
Mrs.Vanilla: I understand. Good luck!
Post # 5
Mrs.Vanilla: I spent 3 years working for a bank. I was good at my job and made really good money doing it, but I hated it. One night, after work, on a whim I applied for a Landscape Architecture program halfway across the country. I told my then FI 2 days later that I’d applied. I got in, we made the decision to move. That was 6 years ago. Absolute best decision of my life. It was scary, I gave up a job making good money, DH gave up his job and had to find a new one when we got here, but neither of us regret our decision to move. We’re both so much happier, I love my work. If you want to do nursing, I think you and your DH should have a convesation and see if it can work for you. Your current job makes you miserable. There’s no amount of money that’s worth it if it makes you miserable.
Post # 6
Giving up a good job is scary, but if you’re not happy, it’s totally worth it. I went back to school for nursing after working at a bank and I am so dang happy. I just took my last final for the semester and have one more semester to go and I’ll be an RN. The classwork is demanding and tough. Don’t plan on having any free time for a while or being able to work full time. I serve at a restaurant on the weekends, and I even like that job way more than sitting behind a desk at a bank. Helping people is one of my strengths, and if you think it’s one of yours, nursing is a very rewarding career.
Post # 7
It sounds like you’re just not a fit for a large corporate organization, which is perfectly ok. If you’re looking for meaning, then that definitely sounds like nursing. Assuming this is a second degree, I think it will only take you two years. Go somewhere local and cheap so that it doesn’t cost a huge amount. An RN is an RN, it doesn’t matter where you went to school as long as you pass the test. Assuming your salary will be around $50-$60K (if not higher, depending on where you live), then you should be able to pay back your investment in just a few years. Sounds like a good plan to me.
Post # 8
Mrs.Vanilla: I’ve had a similar experience when shifting to a larger company. I resigned with no job and found a job 2 weeks later. No regrets.
Keep an open dialog, work your budget and try to live off your FI’s take home only for 2-3 months. You’ll feel more confident about leaving when you both know you can make it on his salary alone.
Post # 9
Ummm…yeah, HATEEEEE my job. Now trying to switch to being an Accountant. I literally cant stand it. Like, I want to gouge my eyes out cant stand it. It’s mind numbingly boring. I am treated like a peon. The money is not terrible but just ugggh…However, I have two young kids and since I am now a single mom after my divorce, it offers me the best flexibility. I mean, if I have to leave early or show up at the school, I can do that. Plus, its not far from where the kids go to school. But, the job itself is sucking my soul.
So yeah, about to study for my CPA and hopefully pass the exam and gain my license. I need something to challenge me. I need to feel valued. This is just not it. To make it worse, I am 36 years old. Ehh…at least I have a Masters degree so I’ve at least accomplished that. I thank God everyday because I know so many people are unemployed but I have low level satisfaction.
Sorry that I provided no help and used your post to vent my own frustrations.lol But, I feel you sister.
Post # 10
Mrs.Vanilla: 100% get out if you’re not happy. I say this as I’m sitting at my desk at work, on my last day. I started this job 6 months ago, and have become so incredibly miserable, it was time to leave.
You’re never too old to go back to school in my opinion. Happiness is more important than money, so long as you guys can pay bills with his income, follow your heart!
Post # 11
I feel you too! I feel like gouging my eyes out M-F. I’m trying to be satisfied with what I have, because going back to school isn’t an option, but I’m constantly looking for an out. If you can go back to school and follow your dream, do it!
Post # 12
I spent 20 years as an IVF scientist and loved it for 15, tolerated it for another 2-3 then hated the last 2 years. The first 15 years I was in the lab most of the time and really felt like I was making a difference to people’s lives. Then our company got bought out by a private equity company and suddenly it was all about making money rather than helping patients. The tipping point for me was when I’d been in 5 meetings in a row one day and realized they were all about marketing and bringing in more patients and cutting costs and making profits FOR THE SHAREHOLDERS. Faceless people expecting a quarterly dividend rather than my special patients who were desparately seeking help. I knew I couldn’t keep on like that (aside from the mounting pile of extra work they kept dumping on me whilst cutting resources).
My exit strategy took a bit of time to formulate but I felt a lot better knowing I had one and it made work easier to endure. My SO and I sat and spent a night crunching numbers and seeing what we needed to live one and have a modest lifestyle. Then we put that one to bed, and spent another night talking about what was missing in my current job and what I thought I needed to feel better / happy / fulfilled. We discussed going back to study, changing companies in the same field, and starting from the bottom in a new role. In the end by chance it all fell into place and I started my own company doing something completely different (restoration work). I earn about 1/3 of what I used to but I’m happy, I’m fulfilled, I feel creative, and I feel like I’m making a difference again. My SO tells me I’m a lot more fun now than I was during the last few years of IVF work. Yes it was tough the first 2 years financially whilst I built up my business but even so, it was the right decision. The business is building gradually and I expect in another 2 years I’ll be doing reasonably well. One other thing I realized was that I was spending money to make myself feel better eg I’ve had a tough week so I’ll buy another handbag. Once I was happy, the reward system seemed to fade away of it’s own accord which helped with the restricted finances.
So, in a nutshell: work out your finances, work out what would make you happier, work out an exit stragegy (I will stay in this job for another x months because of x,y,z), and then keep your options open during the exit transition because once the decision is made to leave, it’s a relief and your horizons seem to open up again. If you feel like you have no escape in your current role it’s hard to look over the fence. Believe me, it’s a lot easier going to work in a crap job when you know you are marking days off on the calender to leave! it doesn’t mean you can’t do a good job now in your current role, but it’s such a relief knowing you aren’t confined to the hamster wheel forever.
Post # 13
- Wedding: October 2015 - Ruby Princess
jamb: In the last 5 years or so, there has been a pretty massive push toward hiring RNs which are bachelors prepared. If you go the nursing route, I highly suggest doing the BSN program if you can afford it. You can do a 2 year associates RN program, hope to get a job and maybe work on a bsn after. The hiring market is decent right now for nursing, but new grads do have a harder time. You would be more marketable with a BSN. Just my 2 cents from another RN (with a bsn).
Post # 14
PeachyMama: I don’t want to hijack, but hate my job and am considering going to school for nursing. Did you have to start back at undergrad to get your RN? How much schooling did you have to do? I have an BA and and MS but in a totally unrelated field.
Post # 15
littlestcapy: I am going through a community college, and they have specific pre requisites within a time frame you need in order to qualify for the program. Science classes couldn’t be more than 5 years ago, the others were 10. I had most of it, but needed my anatomy and physiology and microbiology. Then I was in. My program is 2 years; 1 for your LPN and 1 for your RN. You can take state boards for your LPN and work while you do the RN. Or, you can wait, and just take boards once you are done with your RN. For me, this was the easiest and quickest route to get back in the working world. I plan on taking classes one or two at a time to get my BSN, which is bachelor of science in nursing. The thing that sucks is RN’s and BSN’s make the same in pay, but hospitals are requiring a BSN more and more. They will hire you as an RN if you promise you will get your BSN within a certain time frame. If you want your masters, there are many different areas to choose from. They have masters for teaching, nurse practioner, mid-wifery, or you can focus on a specific disease process like diabetes. That’s when you make the big bucks. Or you can be a traveling nurse with your BSN and make just as much as the MSN does. There are so many possibilites, and nursing is such a diverse and amazing field to be in!
Side note: Some schools will look at the classes you took for the degree you have, especially if it’s a science degree, and let you bypass some classes. That’s more in a 4 year institution. Nursing is very specific; more like a trade with a degree attached, and a lot of times the degree you have doesn’t matter.
Feel free to message me if you have more questions! I only found your post because I was bored and looked back through posts I’ve posted on.