Post # 1
ok Bees..question..my boyfriend proposed to me on christmas!! i was expecting it but still shocked and happy! the ring is…pretty…but…i think he paid too much for a cluster ring…(it doesnt help that my friend got engaged the same day,with a nice solitaire ringy..)..HE SAID if i dont like the ring let him know..but my mom says that is rude!! what should i do?..i dont want to be an ass..but i want to look at more options..opinions ladies?
Post # 4
Did he pick it out on his own? Did he have any idea what you wanted?
Post # 5
Just saw your next post. I think the ring is really pretty. I love all the sparkle and the cut is so unique and lovely.
Post # 6
he picked it on his own…he said he wanted something diffrent but didnt have time before christmas!
Post # 7
Your mom is right, it is rude; however, you know him best, and he did tell you that if you don’t like it as much as you would like something else that you could get something else. Your mom isn’t gong to be wearing the ring everyday or living with your now FI. I would be honest with your FI about your feelings about the ring and then both you and him can go look together for something that you might like better.
Post # 8
your making me feel better..i think i just maybe having ring envy..lol
Post # 9
I think that because he told you it would be okay to trade it that it might be okay in this situation. It completely depends on how you think he would feel about it, and only you know that, so if you think he would be okay with doing that then I don’t see a problem with it.
My FI and I ended up switching out my ring because he selected one that was a style that I told him I really didn’t like (not size related or anything, just a specific type of setting) and he didn’t listen at all and thought I had said that was what I wanted 😛 lol. So we went and switched it out for one that was in the same price range and we found 4 that we both liked and I left the store so that he could still have the final say in it and he got to pick the one that was his favorite. That way we were both happy with the ring, and he still got to feel in control of the ring selection at the end. He also ended up loving the new ring way more than the original one, and he didn’t have to spend more on it either.
We can’t tell you what’s right for you guys because only you know that, but it is something you will wear for the rest of your life and based on what you’ve said it sounds like he is fine with the idea of switching it so I think it could be worth looking into. Good luck!
Post # 10
I think it is gorgeous! I have a cluster ring that I picked out and LOVE! I sometimes wish i had a solitaire, but when I think about it I realize that I am letting what I think other people are thinking about my ring get to me –because i LOVE my ring. I think it is so special that he picked it out for you… he probably wanted something unique to reflect how special and unique you are to him!
Post # 11
I think that if you want something different and he’s 100% okay with it (it sounds like he is plus he said he actually wanted to get you something different but didn’t have time) go for it! I think the ring itself is very pretty but if you have your heart set on something else, there’s no harm in seeing what else is out there. Plus ring shopping together will be lots of fun (for you at least haha)
Post # 12
ALL of your advice sounds good..thus confusing me more..lol
****also let me mention that when my soon to be MIL saw the ring she said”oh, you ll get the big diamond one day!!!” the nerve!! lol
Post # 13
@prettypoison1978: Wow, that’s a crappy thing for her to say. FWIW, I don’t normally like cluster rings, but I think yours is pretty. BUT that’s not what’s important. If YOU don’t like it, I’d say something now. You can catch after-Christmas sales first of all, and secondly,the longer he sees you with it on, the more he’s going to think of it as yours. It starts as a ring, but it becomes a symbol, you know?
Let us know what you decide
Post # 14
He said you could get something you liked and said he didn’t have a lot of time to pick it out before Christmas, so it sounds like he might not even be happy with his choice!
You’ll be wearing this ring for a long time, eh? So, if you don’t like it, I’d say something because he did say you could get something else! So go for it!
Post # 15
I would get something else since it sounds like he isn’t really attached to the ring either.
Post # 16
I would recommend telling him and shopping for something new if you don’t really like it. I think it’s pretty and sparkly, but if it’s not your style, and it doesn’t have much sentimental value for him, go shopping for something different together.