But his ex will be there…

posted 7 days ago in Relationships
Post # 16
Member
3125 posts
Sugar bee

beedot :  Maybe I am different (or a total bitch) but I would NOT give someone the pleasure of thinking they got to me under these circumstances. If she wanted to find out the truth, she would have reached out to you. At this point, it isn’t even important. And I guarantee you that she probably WANTS to dislike you so she would probably spin what you sent in a way that ‘shows your guilt’ in her head.

Go to the wedding. LOOK FABULOUS. And, even if you dont feel it on the inside, ACT like you dont care. Stay with your boyfriend and be polite to everyone. It is only a short time and it will be over and then you will be done. Then keep it moving. Do not let these women strike fear in your heart or make you timid about something you did not even do.

Post # 18
Member
490 posts
Helper bee

I would totally get hair/makeup done, and go with my friendliest smile and attitude. I wouldn’t go out of my way to ignore the ex, sister or anyone else who didn’t like me. Purposefully ignoring looks petty and gives them fuel to start shit. If introduced, standing in line for the bathroom, or accidentally bumping into one of the  ladies, I would be as polite as possible (without being sugary and fake). It’s pretty hard to find fault with that! And if anyone starts to get nasty, either excuse yourself from the situation or leave all together. And no matter how scared/nervous/angry you feel inside, never let them see it. 

Ooooooh I wanna come with you so bad! We need a group of WeddingBees baddest bitches to go too! Please update us when it’s over. 

(And as for the sister, if anyone, she’s the one I would want to have a coffee and chat with the most. You don’t need to explain yourself in detail. I’d simply say ‘your brother broke up with bitchface 2 months before we  reconnected. I’m sure the breakup was difficult for her, but I know I wasn’t a factor in it. I want nothing more than to be friends, but if you refuse to believe the truth, I’ll just have to accept it and move on’.) The end.

Post # 18
Member
4475 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

beedot :  I think it helps a lot that you don’t drink – you can keep your wits about you.

Go to the wedding, look terrific, be gracious to everyone.  Absolutely everyone.  Let your actions show how wonderful you are.   Imagine your fellow bees cheering you on! 

Their words are a reflection of them, not of you, or your BF.  

Post # 19
Member
2637 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

beedot :  everyone else gave great advice! I just want to add- it sounds like the bulk of the info about “everyone” hating you is coming from your bf’s sister? Take it with a grain of salt. She sounds like a pot stirring, troublemaker. I wouldn’t put it past her to be making a lot of this up to manufacture drama and make you uncomfortable. 

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