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But I don't want to get married on a stupid stone courtyard

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    redherring    September 11, 2010   Pittsburgh, PA

    My fiance and I are getting married at a beautiful mansion/B&B. We signed the contract ages ago, and one of the most appealing aspects was the outdoor space. Behind and adjacent to the mansion, there was a *huge* expanse of lawn that would have accommodated tents for both the ceremony and reception. 

    Today, the owner of the venue sent out an email to all of the couples who have signed a contract for the upcoming wedding season. In it was a picture of the newly installed STONE COURTYARD (see below). While it looks lovely, I now get to worry about tripping over the stupid flooring while either walking down the aisle or working the room during the reception.

    I realize this is an overreaction, but I'm really irritated! Had I known I was going to be losing the beautiful landscaping, I'm honestly not sure if we would have chosen this venue. But at less-than-6-months out, it's too late to change the venue, even if we could get our deposit back.

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    Neato anedo    August 2011  

    I think it looks pretty, although I'm a nature freak myself so I can understand your disappointment. I know I would be upset if my venue changed something important after signing the contract... but keep in mind it isn't ugly or unattractive, so it could always be worse :)

     
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    octopus    January 1, 2000  

    Awww, redherring, bummer! I also looked at your venue for my wedding reception, and I thought the backyard was beautiful too. Maybe if you want to look on the bright side...the backyard used to be pretty slanted, if I remember correctly, but the courtyard makes it level. Now you don't have to worry about boozy/elderly guests stumbling??

     
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    redherring    September 11, 2010   Pittsburgh, PA

    I agree that it's fairly attractive. However, if I trip over one of the stones while walking down the aisle, I'm going to leap up and strangle the venue owner.

     
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    MyraG    August 14, 2010  

    I'm so sorry (hugs)

     
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    Blueshoes2    June 2010   PA

    Aww redherring, I'm sorry!  Will you be using an aisle runner for the walk down the aisle?  Maybe you could snag one thick enough that you wouldn't notice the stones underneath...? 

    I would be really upset too, especially since you loved the landscaping so much. 

    At least if it rains a ton before the wedding, the ground won't be soggy now, right? 

     
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    redherring    September 11, 2010   Pittsburgh, PA

    @ Blueshoes2 - I wasn't planning on using an aisle runner. Maybe I should get one and bill it to the venue!

     
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    Blueshoes2    June 2010   PA

    @redherring:  I would seriously ask them if they have one, or if they can provide you with one!

     
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    bridegrl    October 9, 2010   Monterey County, California

    I think its really pretty, & I would love to have that venue BUT I understand it not being what YOU want.

    I think they should have told you beforehand that they were planning on renovating...seems unfair

     

     
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    TaraLynn    August 27, 2010   Philadelphia, Pa

    Ahh! I feel your pain..atleast you got an email. I showed up at my venue last week to show my photogrpaher only to find that the whole place had been renovated! New carpets, new chairs, new drapes, and the two big beautiful granite top bars are now gone and replaced with a tiny portable bar on wheels!! I was so upset and am still in the midst of arguments with them about it. Its almost not the change so much, as not knowing ahead of time. Thankfully everything still looks beautiful and my only real concern is the bar. I do think the stone looks nice, altough I am sure the landscape was much more of what you were going for! Just remebmer that its your wedding day and a little stone is not going to change that! I hope everything works out, good luck!

     
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    oyster    July 2010   Dallas

    Well, it's probably too late to do anything about the loss of lawn (although we were very seriously considering an outdoor ceremony, and I'd be so mad if my venue eliminated one of the things we booked them for)! but what about those shoe things, to keep you from tripping?

    They're advertised for lawn weddings but the website says they can help you avoid sidewalk cracks as well...I think they're called "Soul Mates," Mrs. Flamingo posted about them a while back.

     

     
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    Ella1978    June 19, 2010   Cleveland, Ohio

    How awful.  I understand people changing things on you in the last few minutes, and not sharing those changes with you... you were planning an event based on what you saw, and to have it changed could change what you wanted to do.

    I hope it doesn't cause you too many headaches!  Good luck.

     
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    noritake22    March 31, 2011   Seattle

    I am sorry your venue changed their decor, and I know you are very upset because you counted on one thing and now it is something else, but if it were be, I would have gotten upset at first, then after a while, I would start thinking that it might not be too bad because now I wouldn't have to worry about my heels going into the grass. Personally, I prefer the stones.

     
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    daydreamwanderer       DC

    1) I like it! Plus now your guests won't have to worry about heels sinking into grass.

    2) 6 months out is not necessarily too late to find a (new) venue. Lots of people plan whole weddings in six months! (I don't know how, but they do, haha!)

     
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    eeniebeans    October 9, 2010   Baltimore

    Although it may not be what you had originally signed up for- I think its a very attractive space!

     
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    artbee    February 28, 2010  

    i also thought i'd get married on grass, but ended up on a stone courtyard (though by my choice, i liked the venue). i had no problems tripping on the stones, and i had some thin heels. i actually think it was better than if i was in grass because then you don't have to worry about sinking in the dirt.

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    kcasam    December 6, 2010   Baltimore

    i will say this for the stone: my friend got married in a beautiful grassy knoll outside on a beautiful mansion. i was MOH. I paid $50 for white satin shoes dyed her wedding color. I thought, ok, i'll wear them again someday...but the ground was moist...the shoes were RUINED in 5 minues. Professional cleaners couldn't clean them.

    Her wedding dress (floor length) ruined!

    One BM...SLIPPED AND FELL in the soft ground. The chairs could not be set up because they just sunk in...so...even though i understand your concern, I bet they put it in because so many weddings had been ruined by the soil.

    Good luck!

     
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    VirginiaMarie    January 2011   Austin, TX

    I don't know, Red, this doesn't seem okay to me.  Why are you no longer able to get married on the lawn?  Is the stone courtyard the old lawn? Am I just stupid and don't get it?!  lol.

    We booked my venue in 2009 and in Jan. of 2010 they changed their menu options.  Their original menu options were a big part of the reason I booked that location.  I threw a wee bit of a hissy fit and told them that they should have informed me of the upcoming menu changes when I booked in 2009.  They apologized and are offering me the original choices for my 8/2010 wedding.  Is there any chance that you can do the same?

     

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