Post # 1
This came up during the meeting with a DJ. FI will definitely have a Best Man. So DJ asked us about introducing the wedding party. On my side, I dont really have a MOH. My 3 close friends are my bms. The 4 of us were all in each others weddings, but they had sisters as MOH. So when DJ asked who my MOH would be, I couldn’t answer and dont want to pick one!!! But how can a Best Man be named without a MOH? Is that ok?? There is one I am closet with I think, but (and I admit this is a weird reason) the height order and matching up with the groomsman would look funny. And the other one I would pick seems to be helping out a lot and kickstarting my shower and bahelorette party, or at least asking me about it the most, so duty-wise, I would go with her. Any words of advice? Am I just over thinking this?
Post # 3
It is totally ok! It is your wedding, do what you want! I am having an uneven number of bridesmaids and groomsmen, and some people think this is funny, but I just don’t care! In the end, I don’t think anyone will really notice/care/remember.
Post # 4
I went through something similar. Honestly, you don’t have to “pick one” unless you want to. I did end up picking a MOH though so that one person could be the go to person for showers and things the day of the wedding. At first I felt like I was picking a favorite person out of my four best girls and I hated that, but they are there to support you and no one will be angry for whatever you decide.
Could you just have them announced as “your best women” instead of singling one of them out?
Post # 5
Totally Ok. We don’t have a MOH or a Best Man.
If he’s just put off by it for introductions or ‘pairing’ I can sort of understand if he’s never seen it before. (Though not cool of him to make you paranoid!)
Are your sides even? Or do you have more guys vs girls? You can do Bridesmaid soandso escorted by the very Best Man soandso or if you’ve got more guys, our lovely bridesmainds soandso and soandso with the very Best Man soandso.
Definitely fine, may just be new to him 🙂
Post # 6
There’s an even amount on both sides. But he thought it would sound odd to say Best Man so and so with bridesmaid so and so instead of MOH. And FI def wants to call him Best man instead of ‘just’ groomsman so that they’d all be bms and bms.
Post # 7
It’s not weird at all. I’ve been a wedding coordinator for years and years, and you aren’t the first one to introduce people as Bridesmaid so and so with Best Man so and so.
Just tell him that’s what you want and followup with him and your coordinator if you’ve got one to make sure they go over it, too.
Don’t let your vendors bully you into stuff 🙂 YOUR wedding, YOUR ideas!
Post # 8
We have a MOH but no best man. It’ll be okay.