(Closed) But I’M supposed to come first! :(

posted 6 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

I know the feeling hun. Aww… My much younger cousin got married before me. And up until that point, my bf was well… still my bf. He was not my Fiance even.

And yet here I am. So will you be. So let’s make the best of these types of situations!

Post # 4
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Sugar bee

you can do better than this. every relationship is different and goes on its own timeline. be happy, not jealous!

Post # 5
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

haha! I felt that way too ALL the time, and like @Sasha2011 said… it’ll happen, and when it does, you won’t remember being anxious!

Post # 6
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Sugar bee

Aww! it’s coming. Be glad you know your SO well, through the seasons.

Post # 7
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

@katiebeary: While I think we all know that every relationship is different, I completly understand and sympathize with you.  Something similar has happened to me as well and it doesn’t feel good no matter how logically you try to look at it.  Keep your head up and as long as you are sure that your time will in fact come, try to stay positive.

Post # 8
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Buzzing Beekeeper

Have you discussed marriage at all since moving in together?

Wait… you’re getting married in 2016? I’m confused.

Post # 9
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2013 - An amazing non-profit retreat

Think of it this way: How would you feel if someone was jealous/angry/angsty over YOUR engagement? Not good. I wasn’t the calmest, most rational waitingbee, so I get it– but remember that we’re all snowflakes! Everyone is different, every relationship is different an dwe’re all in different stages at different times. 

Post # 10
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

@KatyElle: i think she may be like me where i sat the date as the latest date myself and SO agreed would be the absoloute latest we would get married. hopefully before then

Post # 11
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Buzzing Beekeeper

@aprose: Ohhhh ok. I didn’t know people did that, thanks for the heads up.

Post # 12
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2015

I second all of KatyElle’s questions… What were the marriage talks like (if any) in the past? Did you move in under the pretense that you would be engaged soon?

Never mind: I read some of your old posts.  Ouch πŸ™

Post # 13
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

That happened to us too. We’ve been together six years and my bestfriend from high school was with her boyfriend maybe nine months before they got engaged…before us! We had already ordered the ring and were planning the engagement which is why I was angry at first but she is still my best friend so I had to let it go and be happy for them. It’s frustrating but like other bees said, be happy for them and just be patient until it’s your turn πŸ™‚

Post # 14
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I know how you feel. My fiance and I dated for four and a half years, and while I knew I wanted to get married around two, he wasn’t ready until last month. Almost every single person I knew who was in a relationship got engaged and/or married in that time period. It was excruciating.

The worst was when my best friend, who had been in a relationship for three years, broken up, and started dating a new guy, got engaged after dating him for about seven months. When she called me (I was going to school three hours away and she didn’t want to wait to tell me) I full on cried in the middle of target. I’m glad I was going to school far away because there was no way I could face her for quite awhile. It’s an irrational and sucky feeling, but it happens. I would try to look at the things you have in your relationship that your friend may not have–like someone said before, you’ve known him through the seasons, and I think that’s actually pretty important.

Post # 15
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

I so understand, I feel like it happened to me all summer… πŸ˜›  It sucks but try to be happy for them.  You’ll want them happy for you when it’s your turn πŸ™‚

Post # 16
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

I think we all feel like that sometimes… But just remember you have a great relationship and it’s coming!

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