Post # 1
I know every bride pictures that moment when she stares down the aisle at her FI and he looks a little misty eyed. The look on his face reads “I have never seen you look so beautiful” and he repeats those exact words as you take his hand at the altar.
Who wouldn’t want that moment?
Well my fear is, will he love me in my dress? I know a lot of guys arent really concerned about that, but some men do and I am afraid he will be slightly opinionated about my attire for that special day. I have bounced some ideas about my dress off of him and have even showed him pictures (he has seen my dress but it wasnt definite at the time, and he seemed to like it) and he said he “had a different dress in mind”. Am I being too self conscious?
Post # 3
He will love it because you feel confident with your choice and will look stunning on your wedding day. Also, the way things look in pics and how they are in real life are so different–just think about what dresses you liked from the pics and which ones you actually liked when you started trying things on!
Oh, and we wanna see pics!!!
Post # 4
MrsH, I am SO with you on this topic! I know that a majority of men out there don’t have a big wedding dress preference and will love the dress no matter what it looks like. And to an extent, they are right about one thing. No matter what, your man is going to love you, love marrying you, love seeing you come down the aisle and think you’re beautiful. BUT, I get it. SOME guys are pretty particular. My fiance included. He’s just a very particular person and I was, and still am a little bit, terrified that he won’t love my dress because he has very specific likes and dislikes! I know he’ll think I’m beautiful, but that doesn’t mean he’ll think the dress is gorgeous. For instance, my fiance told me to choose whatever makes me happy, and I know he means it, but also knowing how particular he is, I KNEW he must have some styles he loves and some he hates and I certainly didn’t want to pick something he hates! I poked and prodded until he finally revealed he likes white (not ivory) and he doesn’t like trains. He actually came to a few bridal stores with me and pointed out a few dresses he liked and thought were pretty so I had some idea of styles he liked. But I was still really worried when I picked my dress though!
After hearing from, well, pretty much everyone that a light ivory (somewhere between white and ivory) really looks best on my skin tone without washing me out, I talked about it with him and when he saw the shade and realized I wasn’t talking about a dark ivory, he was okay with ivory. And I didn’t find out that he doesn’t like trains until AFTER I bought my dress (that has a train), but I’m not too worried because it isn’t a super long train, just short and simple and it can always be bustled.
My best advice is to just talk with him about what styles he likes and what he really really doesn’t like. Does he like plain, or beaded embellisments? lace or satin? form fitting or a-line? trains or not? white or ivory? strapless or something with a little more coverage? I actually really liked having my fiance’s input and ideas!! Just keep in mind that no matter how particular or opinionated they are, they are going to think you are beautiful no matter what, regardless of how much they love the dress.
The end. Sorry for the novel.
Post # 5
You know, I worried a little about this, too. The dress I chose was really different than what I thought I would choose and I was worried that it would be too much for my husband. However, when he saw me in it, he did exactly what you described. 🙂 Honestly, even if your FI is pretty opionated about regular clothes, I think once he sees you in your dress, he’ll be so happy and excited that he’ll love it, no matter what!
Post # 6
I think its always funny once you actually hear why a guy has an opinion. He may say he doesn’t like ivory but he thinks ivory as like a dingy yellow. He may say he doesn’t like trains but doesn’t know they can be bustled. My FI doesn’t really like pick ups or anything asymetrical. We’ll see what he thinks of my dress!
Post # 7
Well don’t worry about it. I didn’t think mine would like the blush pink color and as it turns out he thought it was pure white. I’ve had to show him a white shirt against the blush pink dress and say, “now do you see the pink?” To which he replies, “no I don’t”. And I thought he would talk about how tiny my waist looked in the dress. But nope, he talked about how sexy he thought the back of the dress was. The back of the dress and sexy never occurred to me! LOL
Post # 8
I agree with the other girls that he will love it because it is on you!
Post # 9
I completely agree with you and have worried about this too! My FI seems to base all of his thoughts on “how weddings should be” based on what he has seen at friends’ weddings we have attended (ie- his bout had to be a calla lilly (or “that white flower thing” as he calls it) because that is what every groom has had at every wedding he has ever attended). All of our friends have had pretty similar style dresses– strapless corset top and A-line/ballgown skirt. Mine looks nothing like that, so I am afraid I am going to get to the end of the aisle and he’ll be like, “that’s not a wedding dress!”.
I’ve let him know that I am worried about this though, and so though he hasn’t seen the dress, he knows not to expect a ballgown.
Post # 10
seriously. you’re gonna be the most gorgeous thing he’s ever seen before at that moment – and you would be if you were wearing overalls. i’m sure he will love you in your dress.
Post # 11
I am SOOO right there with you on this one, I’m terrified he won’t like what I pick. For me it’s because I seriously do most of my shopping with my FI. Who else know my body better than me, FI does. So for me, anytime I need an opinion of what really really works on me I go to him. For this I’m going to my girlfriends or family members and they all just keep saying oh it looks great. Well seriously there are dresses I’m trying on that I KNOW don’t look great. I need someone who’s going to be ultra critical and honest (of course without being mean and rude about it) and FI and I have gotten to a place over the years where we do that for each other. So I’m super frustrated because I just simply don’t have a clue. Then I’m trying to choose between dresses that are more bridal and ones that are a little less bridal and i just can’t decide and I haven’t come close to having a THIS is the dress moment so I’m totally lost.
Post # 12
LOL! I have that same worry. As long as I don’t pick something to trendy or poofy I think he will be fine.
If he liked it when you showed it to him (even if he had no idea it was your dress) I think he will like the dress. Especially cause his bride will be wearing it.
Post # 13
I wasn’t worried about this, but the thought popped in my head last night that he might not like my dress! But then I remembered we have similar tastes, so things he doesn’t like, I probably wouldn’t have chosen anyway. My dress is fairly simple, and he’s seen the bottom few inches of it (sneak preview!) so he knows its ivory lace and won’t be expecting bridal satin or anything.
Post # 14
I was worried about this too because my FI is actually very fashion conscious.
Intitally I had 4 dresses I liked so I showed him pics and he liked the one I liked least, plus the one I loved he didn’t like at all!
So when I found a dress I loved I showed it to him, he was like “that’s pretty” but when I got it and tried it on he said “you look awesome!” I don’t care that he’s seen me in it because now I know what he’s going to be thinking on our wedding day – no worries here! 🙂
I’d suggest showing him things that are similar if you’re worried. Then he can know what to expect but not have actually seen THE DRESS.
Post # 15
Mine refuses to look at ANYTHING he doesn’t want to see it at all
Post # 16
Mine is a pretty traditional timeless style so I think he will like it.
One day I showed him about 10 pictures of differen’t dresses. None of them were mine but some of them had similar traits. The one thing he pointed out was that he though he liked the pick up skirt better than straight a-line. Mine is straight a-line haha 😛 I don’t think that is a biggie though. I’m not too worried.