But you have to fit into your wedding dress…

posted 2 years ago in Dress
Post # 2
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

That is annoying … but maybe they were just messing with you?

Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2014 - San Francisco, CA

I would probably make intense, unflinching eye contact with them and slowly, silently eat my cinnamon bun while making “YUM” noises. Hopefully that would make them uncomfortable enough that they’d stop making comments, even in jest. But I’m a jerk.

 

It’s inappropriate for them to say that, but don’t let it get to you. It’s your dress, your body, your day, and the “starving so I can get married” cliche is INSANE. Rock out with those cinnamon buns. They sound amazing.

Post # 5
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

RoxiB4b3:  That’s really horrible. Women already deal with enough weight hate. It’s enough already!

Post # 6
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

rachel85:  Hahaha!  I would have done the same thing!  But, I also enjoy a donut every Friday morning because about 6 boxes will appear around the office (we really like Fridays here), and I stare people down every time…. Usually that means I end up with a donut I don’t even like because I was so busy with the eye contact that I couldn’t see what I picked.  I may be a jerk, but I’m not jerky enough to put it back in the box and take something else.  

I still eat it, though.  I mean, it’s a donut.

Post # 7
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

Ugh, that’s so annoying! For some reason as soon as people know you’re planning a wedding they think they can comment on everything in your life.

Post # 8
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Buzzing bee

I just tell them I’ll loosen the corset a bit 😉

Post # 9
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

That’s so rude! My response would probably be: “Weird, I never thought it was appropriate to comment on someone else’s weight!” 

Post # 10
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Bumble bee

Just say that’s why you specifically bought your  dress a few sizes too big and are now on a special diet to make sure you fit in to it…

Post # 11
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

RoxiB4b3:  It’s just a thing women say to other women. Don’t think on it. It’s just chatter. 

Post # 12
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

Eh-I think it’s just small talk. I went from a size 6 to a size 2-and while they always made comments about how skinny I was getting, they also still always made comments about fitting into the dress when junk food was brought in. 

Now should people be saying anything at all? Probably not, but some people just don’t know how to make small talk appropriately.

Post # 13
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2015

RoxiB4b3:  As soon as anyone makes even a joke about something weight related they’re treading on thin ice.. I never make such comments about others because you never know how it could affect someone. Myself? sure (i.e. i’ll publically declare/joke around ‘I have to stop eating Krispy Kremes if I want to fit in to my dress) but others, never. If one of my work colleagues said that to someone, i’d tell them to mind their own business.

It’s very possible in that context that they were just joking around as stereotypically women starve themselves before their wedding day.. but it’s still not really in good taste. Don’t take it to heart though, the fact that they said it probably means you actually look great and they thought you wouldn’t take it seriously.

Post # 14
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Worker bee

I understand EXACTLY where you are coming from.  I get comments like these occassionally… and I’m not even wedding planning yet (not that preparing for a wedding warrants such criticism)! AND I’m not even overweight or anything. I find comments like this extremely annoying and I’m not gonna lie- hurtful.  

 

That being said however, I think they are just saying it “because that’s what people say to a soon-to-be bride.”  People can be so idiotic. 

Post # 15
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

People just don’t know when they’re being assholes, but at the same time I really wouldn’t let it bother me. I’d reply with “ehhhh i’m really not worried” and take a big ass bite out of it hahaha. 

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