Post # 1
Just a mini vent here
I picked up my wedding dress Monday, and a few people at work asked to see pictures of the dress. Today someone brought Thunder Bay Persians (Cinnamon buns with Strawberry icing – super yummy!!) to the office, and 3 people made a comment that I shouldn’t be eating those because I have a wedding dress to fit into.
What concern is it to anyone but me how I look on my wedding day? I’m proud of my body, and I try to eat healthy, but I’m not gonna put my life on hold for one day.
Post # 2
That is annoying … but maybe they were just messing with you?
Post # 3
I get that they could be messing with me, but I just don’t understand how people think it is acceptable to comment on someone’s weight just because there is a wedding involved.
Post # 4
- Wedding: June 2014 - San Francisco, CA
I would probably make intense, unflinching eye contact with them and slowly, silently eat my cinnamon bun while making “YUM” noises. Hopefully that would make them uncomfortable enough that they’d stop making comments, even in jest. But I’m a jerk.
It’s inappropriate for them to say that, but don’t let it get to you. It’s your dress, your body, your day, and the “starving so I can get married” cliche is INSANE. Rock out with those cinnamon buns. They sound amazing.
Post # 5
RoxiB4b3: That’s really horrible. Women already deal with enough weight hate. It’s enough already!
Post # 6
rachel85: Hahaha! I would have done the same thing! But, I also enjoy a donut every Friday morning because about 6 boxes will appear around the office (we really like Fridays here), and I stare people down every time…. Usually that means I end up with a donut I don’t even like because I was so busy with the eye contact that I couldn’t see what I picked. I may be a jerk, but I’m not jerky enough to put it back in the box and take something else.
I still eat it, though. I mean, it’s a donut.
Post # 7
Ugh, that’s so annoying! For some reason as soon as people know you’re planning a wedding they think they can comment on everything in your life.
Post # 8
I just tell them I’ll loosen the corset a bit 😉
Post # 9
That’s so rude! My response would probably be: “Weird, I never thought it was appropriate to comment on someone else’s weight!”
Post # 10
Just say that’s why you specifically bought your dress a few sizes too big and are now on a special diet to make sure you fit in to it…
Post # 11
RoxiB4b3: It’s just a thing women say to other women. Don’t think on it. It’s just chatter.
Post # 12
Eh-I think it’s just small talk. I went from a size 6 to a size 2-and while they always made comments about how skinny I was getting, they also still always made comments about fitting into the dress when junk food was brought in.
Now should people be saying anything at all? Probably not, but some people just don’t know how to make small talk appropriately.
Post # 13
RoxiB4b3: As soon as anyone makes even a joke about something weight related they’re treading on thin ice.. I never make such comments about others because you never know how it could affect someone. Myself? sure (i.e. i’ll publically declare/joke around ‘I have to stop eating Krispy Kremes if I want to fit in to my dress) but others, never. If one of my work colleagues said that to someone, i’d tell them to mind their own business.
It’s very possible in that context that they were just joking around as stereotypically women starve themselves before their wedding day.. but it’s still not really in good taste. Don’t take it to heart though, the fact that they said it probably means you actually look great and they thought you wouldn’t take it seriously.
Post # 14
I understand EXACTLY where you are coming from. I get comments like these occassionally… and I’m not even wedding planning yet (not that preparing for a wedding warrants such criticism)! AND I’m not even overweight or anything. I find comments like this extremely annoying and I’m not gonna lie- hurtful.
That being said however, I think they are just saying it “because that’s what people say to a soon-to-be bride.” People can be so idiotic.
Post # 15
People just don’t know when they’re being assholes, but at the same time I really wouldn’t let it bother me. I’d reply with “ehhhh i’m really not worried” and take a big ass bite out of it hahaha.