Butch/Masculine Engagement Rings

posted 2 years ago in Rings
Post # 2
9949 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2013

Have you looked into anything that’s more…like…I want to say rustic, but that’s not what I mean.  I’ve seen really cool rings that sort of have…sharper edges and are less feminine than a typical engagement ring.  I’m trying to find a picture of what I mean.  

I think the ones above are nice, but they feel medieval to me.  What about an engagement ring that’s thick, like a man’s wedding ring, with an inlaid stone?

Post # 3
9949 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2013

Okay, this is what I was thinking…now that I see it, I’m not sure, though.


Post # 4
998 posts
Busy bee

Out of the rings in your post, I’d say that the first style is the most suitable for your partner. I always found those art deco settings to be somewhat masculine. The second is pretty good too, but it looks a bit too feminine to my eye. And all the sapphires, filigree, and flowers on the third makes it stray from what you’re looking for into the frilly, IMO.<br /><br />I quickly went on Google Images and found an example of a mens ring style that popped into my head from your description. Congratulations, and good luck finding the perfect ring! :)<br /><br />

Post # 6
1349 posts
Bumble bee
Post # 8
2364 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

vintagefemme:  And I meant to say before I hit post, you should look in consignment and antique shops as well!  Good luck! 

Post # 9
367 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2015

i like this thread, and i really love the idea of gender neutral or ambiguous jewelry.

my suggestions:  

love this one, have considered it for my SO, very pretty


mourning rings-  i ,know, sounds morbid, but really it was jewelry to remember others, very beautiful and loved deeply.





Edwardian-Victorian  rings have a not quite masculine, not quite feminine vibe to many of them






and lastly, signet rings!  by being only a single metal tone, they read masculine or feminine, but are different enough in shape to distinguish it from a wedding band (and i think a signet and wedding band would be the chic-est thing eva).  you can also get the face in any shape or size, and you can put her initials on it, or both of your initials, or the date, or just leave it blank like its a big ole gold stone. 



I hope these help in your search!  no matter what you choose, would love to see your final choices!

Post # 10
2169 posts
Buzzing bee

I think rings like these could work. I would say they’re all either vintage or modern and not super feminine. It really depends on what your partner likes though.

Post # 11
489 posts
Helper bee

vintagefemme:  Congrats on your upcoming engagement! You are certainly on the right track. I think there are a lot of art deco rings out there that have a very (for lack of a better word when describing jewelry) “industrial” look with clean lines and symmetry. I love the first two (I actually have that second one favorited on my etsy account! I’ve purchased from her before, she’s a great seller!!) Just because your partner has a more masculine style doesn’t mean you have to sacrifice on beauty 🙂 

Here’s a pic of one of my favorite ones on Etsy (already sold, but this gives you an idea of what I mean):

Post # 13
432 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

I really love the middle one, it looks so comfortable and easy to wear. Gypsy set rings might be an option as well. To me that style seems to meld a traditional engagement ring with a men’s band. This is one of the first ones that popped up on etsy, but there are tons of them out there



Edit: I just read your update, this may not be the ring for her then. I vote the middle one!


  • This reply was modified 2 years, 3 months ago by  franklyn.
Post # 14
9949 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2013

lolot:  I like that ring…but what’s up with that pinky nail????  


vintagefemme:  Good luck!  You could always pick something out together. Let us know how it goes.  =)  I love that you’re looking for something out of the ordinary.  

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