- 4 years ago
- Wedding: May 2014 - Tennessee
Last night BF and I watched a YouTube video of a wedding and it made us both cringe. Won’t give any more details on it, but it apparently sparked something in him and with zero prompting he opened up a floodgate of questions ranging from ‘what kind of wedding do you want’ ‘big or small’ ‘colors’ ‘who in the bridal party’ etc. Then he got kinda quiet and in a roundabout way asked how much I imagine my ring costing. I was floored. Lol! I gave him the range I’m comfortable with and he goes on to say he knows I don’t want a diamond so what do I want? Told him moissanite or failing that a blue sapphire but I want a lab created stone no matter what it is. He knows I want rose gold already. The conversation kept going for a while and we never got into timelines, but squeeeeeee!!! We went into this relationship with the mindset that neither of us was into casual dating. We touched on that on our first date and basically agreed we were starting a relationship with the intent to see if the other was marriage material. So I’m not sure why this took me by surprise so much, but it did. My last relationship was nearly 4 years long and ended badly (his family and a hospital was involved). And while we talked about marriage and future, he always dragged his heels while I waited patiently. And it never bothered me to wait (he was still in school, but never wanted to really talk about it even theoretically). I think I’m just a bit surprised by the huge difference between current BF and my ex.
But I didn’t want to freak him out so I wanted to let out my spazz-attack here where ias harmless.