Post # 1
I have always loved butterflies. I would love to release a few during the ceremony. But is it ethical? Does it mix up their migration patterns? Hurt the little critters? Anyone have any experiences or feelings about it?
Post # 3
The lady at my venue said they tried to release butterflies once and they did something wrong or it was too cold outside and all of the butterflies froze to death. Not trying to be mean, but these are living things, not props. At the bottom of your post where there are other posts listed, there is one for faux butterflies release:
Faux Butterfly Release?
Maybe check into that and see if it would work for you.
Hope that helps!
Post # 4
I don’t know if I should judge if it’s cruel or not because I kill spiders. Spiders freak me out & bite, so I actually have no problem squishing them. Butterflies are better looking than a spider so people usually have a problem with the possibility of one dying… that kind of annoys me actually! Why do butterflies get a free pass? How many of the people voting “cruel” attack a spider when they see it in their living room?! I wouldn’t go around killing butterflies, but I’d be a hypocrite if I said it were cruel.
I wouldn’t have a butterfly release though (and this is just me) because it costs around $10 per butterfly, shipping butterflies into areas where they aren’t originally from can affect the biodiversity of the area & the idea of guests opening up a package with a dead butterfly in it kind of puts a downer on the whole release!
Post # 5
Not a PETA advocate by any means but living creatures are not decorations. There are countless stories about them dying in transit so that there are dead/traumatized butterflies in boxes that will not fly away, which upsets guests. Also, when they are transported via mail order, etc they are not able to find their way home.
Post # 6
I work as a wedding photo assistant and the sad truth is that in most weddings where brides have released butterflies, a lot of them are dead as the guests/bride and groom open the box. Bummer.
Post # 7
I guess when it comes to insects I’m a heartless wench. I really wouldn’t care if all the butterflies died. Heck, I think a mounted butterfly would be a really cool favor! I just don’t associate “cruelty” with bugs. And a July wedding in Jersey, doesn’t sound like they’ll freeze to death, they’ll be fine.
Post # 8
Living creatures aren’t decorations.
Post # 9
Well, it certainly doesn’t sound nice. Or easy to pull off anyway. I’d skip this one.
Post # 10
I voted for “cruel”; I’ve seen on a couple wedding shows when the butterflies are released they don’t really fly, they just kind of lay on the ground frozen, it’s really sad. I guess they arrive frozen and you’re supposed to let them thaw for a while before releasing; it just sounds awful and kind of pointless, and I wouldn’t want those poor butterflies suffering on one of the happiest days of our lives!
Post # 11
I’ve seen this done at a wedding or two, and unfortunately, not all the butterflies survive. It’s a good idea in theory, but I think they’re too delicate. 🙁
Post # 12
I don’t really know much about the effects this has on the butterflies, but I would listen to the other brides and maybe think of another way to get the same affect. Sounds like you might run into dead butterflies, and that is not cute on your wedding day!
Post # 13
I wouldn’t do it just because opening a box and expecting a grand flutter of butterflies but instead having a kind of lame tumbling of dead and half dead bugs falling listlessly to the ground is a pretty big buzz kill. Maybe you could look into releasing doves- there are people who specially train them for this sort of thing, so they’re totally used to it and know to come back to the trainer afterwards, so there’s no chance of disrupting the local environment or hurting the animals.
Post # 14
cruel – because of the 5 weddings i have been to that tried to do this, the butterflies died before the ceremony release. they suffocate in those little things and if they live, the box takes off all of the covering of their wings and they cant fly right… so not a fan.
if there was a way to keep em alive, sure no problem. but they ALWAYS DIE.
Post # 15
I’d be torn too but decide not to do it. It was be to cruel to me, I mean, as long as the butterflies were treated as glass and taken care of very well then I guess it would be okay.
I do like the faux butterfly release though!! that could be perfect
Post # 16
Sounds nice in theory, but sad in reality. I had to vote “no”.