Buttonhole/corsage etiquette

posted 3 years ago in Flowers
  • poll: Buttonholes for extended family members
    Put my foot down and say no more buttonholes : (2 votes)
    11 %
    Allow grandparents to purchase matching buttonholes : (7 votes)
    37 %
    Give all family members the option of purchasing matching buttonholes if they wish : (4 votes)
    21 %
    Give all family members the option of purchasing their own buttonholes from their own florist : (2 votes)
    11 %
    Family members who want to match - Add it onto your flower bill and hope they pay you back : (1 votes)
    5 %
    Family members who want to match - add it to the order but say others are paying for it : (1 votes)
    5 %
    Family members who want to match - give them details to make their own arrangements : (2 votes)
    11 %
  • Post # 3
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    2454 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: September 2013

    Anyone who is walking down the aisle or is participating the wedding will need one. 

    So if your FI’s grandparents will be walked down the aisle as most are, they will need one. At least the grandma should get one. Just because you do not have grandparents doesn’t mean that your FI’s shouldn’t be recognized with a simple flower. 

    Readers and ushers should as well too. 

    Post # 6
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    3394 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: April 2014

    @FromA2B2013:  I say members of the bridal party, plus parents and grandparents of the bride and groom and THAT’S IT. 🙂

    ETA: My grandmother wore one at my wedding. She was the only grandparent alive.

    Post # 7
    Member
    3570 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: September 2011

    The grandparents should have them, and you should pay for them.  We also got them for our Godparents on both sides. 

    Post # 8
    Member
    83 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: November 2013

    @FromA2B2013: 

    So apart from the Bridal party we are paying for

    A Corsage and Bout for My parents and My Brother
    A Corsage and Bout for the In laws. 

    A corsage for My 2 Grand Mothers 

    The bouts will not be the same as the bridal party ones,  MY families will tie intogether and reflect our heritage, and FH’s parents ones will be different again. 

     

    Post # 9
    Member
    1148 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2011

    I’d give them to the grandparents.

    We also gave bouts to the program distributors/guest book attendants, candle lighters, and my aunt and uncle who were hosting our reception. I was afraid of leaving someone out or them not feeling included if they were doing something in our wedding and had no flower!

    Post # 11
    Member
    83 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: November 2013

    @FromA2B2013:  

    Oh sorry, bout is short for boutonniere, the term used here for button holes 🙂 

    Post # 12
    Member
    3084 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: July 2014

    @FromA2B2013:  I think grandparents as well. I wouldn’t get it for any others.

    Post # 13
    Member
    1769 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: July 2014

    If your FI and his parents want his grandparents to have them, just order them with the rest and pay for them. Don’t exclude his grandparents or try to make them pay or order their own just because yours arent with you anymore and your sisters chose not to give them at their weddings- perhaps your sisters/parents/grandparents didn’t want them for your grandparents but your FI’s parents/grandparents do- different situation. 

    Post # 14
    Member
    5087 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: April 2014

    I am going to honour my grandmother and grandad with a fancy buttonhole. Our parents, new hubby, best men, usher and corsages for bm’s. However I’m handmaking all of them in paper not florals for us. 

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