Post # 1
Who is rit ight to have buttonholes for? So far we have got them for
Apparently my FMIL has been asking about other family members, which I’ve said fine but they’ll have to pay for them themselves. I’d said this in the hope that they would go and find a florist to get them from so it won’t look similar to ours…not that I don’t want them to match but if they were different it would look like they had done it themselves rather than joining in with us (I don’t have any grandparents, who I think are the other family members on my fiancé’s side, so Im not offering any of my family the opportunity to have one)
However, I think from what my fiancé was implying all the buttonholes would be ordered together. As saying before my family aren’t being offered so it would make it look very one sided, which Im not comfortable with. So I would like to know, what would you do?
Post # 3
Anyone who is walking down the aisle or is participating the wedding will need one.
So if your FI’s grandparents will be walked down the aisle as most are, they will need one. At least the grandma should get one. Just because you do not have grandparents doesn’t mean that your FI’s shouldn’t be recognized with a simple flower.
Readers and ushers should as well too.
Post # 4
@ohmybears48: +1 this is correct.
Post # 5
The ony people walking down the aisle in the recessional will be:
Me and my new husband
Both sets of parents
I don’t want to discourage his grandparents from having them just because I don’t have any but when my other two sisters got married and various grandparents were still alive, I don’t remember them wearing one so to me it seems a little strange.
Post # 6
@FromA2B2013: I say members of the bridal party, plus parents and grandparents of the bride and groom and THAT’S IT. 🙂
ETA: My grandmother wore one at my wedding. She was the only grandparent alive.
Post # 7
The grandparents should have them, and you should pay for them. We also got them for our Godparents on both sides.
Post # 8
So apart from the Bridal party we are paying for
A Corsage and Bout for My parents and My Brother
A Corsage and Bout for the In laws.
A corsage for My 2 Grand Mothers
The bouts will not be the same as the bridal party ones, MY families will tie intogether and reflect our heritage, and FH’s parents ones will be different again.
Post # 9
I’d give them to the grandparents.
We also gave bouts to the program distributors/guest book attendants, candle lighters, and my aunt and uncle who were hosting our reception. I was afraid of leaving someone out or them not feeling included if they were doing something in our wedding and had no flower!
Post # 11
Oh sorry, bout is short for boutonniere, the term used here for button holes 🙂
Post # 12
@FromA2B2013: I think grandparents as well. I wouldn’t get it for any others.
Post # 13
If your FI and his parents want his grandparents to have them, just order them with the rest and pay for them. Don’t exclude his grandparents or try to make them pay or order their own just because yours arent with you anymore and your sisters chose not to give them at their weddings- perhaps your sisters/parents/grandparents didn’t want them for your grandparents but your FI’s parents/grandparents do- different situation.
Post # 14
I am going to honour my grandmother and grandad with a fancy buttonhole. Our parents, new hubby, best men, usher and corsages for bm’s. However I’m handmaking all of them in paper not florals for us.
Post # 15
Well my fiancé and I have had a discussion and neither of us want them really…but if his granny really wants one then we are happy to have it added but we aren’t going to make a big deal about it. If she asks, she can have one.