Post # 1
Ok, I’m not sure if I’m worrying unnecessarily here, but I haven’t been able to stop thinking about something. I am not getting married until October 2013, but one of my friends surprised me a few days ago and took me dress shopping (or more like dress up). I tried on 6 dresses and there was one there that I LOVED. It was perfect and I have never looked so good in my life. I am plus size, 20 in wedding dresses and it’s rare that I feel beautiful in anything. This dress did it all for my body. This is my dilemma: The dress is being discontinued. I’m not sure when, but I am 98% that it will no longer be available by the time I am legitimately shopping for dresses. I’m torn, do I buy it now, convinced that it is my dress? Do I look around some more, try it on again and make sure? Do I just forget it and tell myself that I will find something similar when the time comes around? I also am hoping that I will lose a considerable amount of weight before my wedding. So, if I buy it now how much alteration would they be able to do? Part of me thinks I should let this go and just tell myself I will find a dress just like it when the time is right. Opinions? Thanks in advance!
Post # 3
Hm… This is a tough one. On one hand, I’d be hesitant to buy so far in advance for the reasons you mentioned. On the other, if it is LOVE and you think it is the one, then I feel like you might be setting yourself up for dress regret to let it slip through your fingers – I feel like I would compare every dress to the one that got away, and that it would take on mythical levels of perfection because you wouldn’t be able to try it on to compare to other dresses.
I guess if I were you I would look at my budget. Is this dress priced at a point that you would be willing to eat if you fell out of love (minus whatever you might be able to recoup by selling it)? If so, I would get it if you love it. If not, then I would sit tight. You’re right that there are so many awesome dresses out there and you’ll find something else amazing when you go shopping closer to the wedding.
Post # 4
It might be your dream dress now, but two years is a lot of time for new dresses to come out and for you to fall in love with a new dress. Find out when they will be discontinuing the dress before you make any rash decisions – maybe you still have some time to decide. And generally for alterations, dresses can be altered ~2 sizes – but it can depend on the style.
Post # 5
Although the only thing we have in common is a date far in the future, some of the things ladies said to me here might be relevant to you, too. I’m planning on waiting a while to actually buy a dress, I’m just looking for silhouette ideas. And I’m planning on staying my same size. So if I was planning on losing weight, that would be even more incentive to wait because you may prefer a different style on your new future figure than what you’d like on your current figure. Maybe take lots of pics of the dress and when you go shopping in the future after the weight loss, and you still like the dress, you can show it to the dress store people and they can find you something similar? Plus I’m imagining alterations would be a nightmare, but I’ve heard a good seamstress can work wonders.
Post # 6
Well, as much as you love it, it also sounds like you are very unsure. Since your taste might change over the next year, I would suggest waiting. Did you plan the rest of the wedding yet? Your choice of dress may change as the rest of the wedding falls into place: season, colors, venue, mood. I would suggest waiting until at least October 2011 or so, so that way you can see what kind of mood you are in during that time of year. Also, if it’s your intention to lose weight, the dress may not even fit your body correctly at a certain point, and you may want to show off your figure in a different style of dress.
How about taking really good pics of the dress, and then once you do some more planning and thinking, if you still love the dress, you can find one just like it, or have one made to replicate it?
Post # 7
I would wait. I know my own tastes changed dramatically from when I got engaged in late December to yesterday, when I purchased my dress, and that was just over six months. I’m sure your own tastes will definitely change over the next two years as new styles come out. Plus, as one of the PP’s said, if you’re planning on losing weight, your body might change, and you might want to highlight those changes in ways that this dress won’t allow you to.
Post # 8
I would definitely wait. There will be new dress styles between now and then. If you lose weight, it isn’t going to look the same on you. You’ll find the dress of your dreams closer to time!!
Post # 9
I would definitely wait! I was in the same boat when I got engaged almost a year ago. I went dress shopping almost right away and found a dress that I absolutely loved. I didn’t buy it because I didn’t want to commit to a dress so soon. I am so glad that I waited! I have changed my mind so many times since then, and after trying on more dresses, I know that I would have regretted that first dress!
Post # 10
I would wait. Even if you weren’t planning on losing weight. Your tastes and vision can and probably will change in that period of time.
Post # 11
I’m with everyone else- you should wait.
For one, you have no idea how your body will change in that amount of time. You may start losing weight and your body may change in a way that makes the silhouette look different on you (Prime example: When I lose weight, I lose pretty evenly all over. My best friend, on the other hand, loses everywhere EXCEPT her size E boobs.)
Or, worst case scenario, you may lose motivation/get stressed out and gain weight (not to be a Debbie Downer, but it happens… to me, in particular :D)
Now, what I’m wondering: What designer makes this dress? Is it possible that the designer has a similar dress in the same silhouette that *isn’t* being discontinued, that you may like just as well?
You might check the designers website to check- if you can find one you like just as much (or more), then you won’t feel the rush to buy right away.
Post # 12
Okay so this is what I did….I bought a dress online way before I was supposed to because it wasnt going to be available later on. I have it now, trying to sell it, but I have another dress that Im actually wearing on my wedding day. I say if you have the money, then go ahead and buy it, would it really hurt? You can always sell it later on if you dont wear it, or pass it down your family or whatever. I found a dress 2 years before our wedding date that I LOVED and I didnt get it. Now, I cant find it anywhere and I settled for another dress. So like I said, if you can afford it and it wont hurt your budget, take the plunge and get it because you might not be able to find a dress as great as that one! But thats just my opinion, I know you’re thinking of losing weight, so that might be a deal breaker, but if youre willing to have alterations done anyway then go for it. But Im not sure, its up to you ultimately, but I know that I should have gotten the dress I loved 2 years ago when it was available! lol
Post # 13
I would definitely wait. 2yrs is a long tme and there will be @ least 4 more new wedding dress seasons between then. Also you want to lose weight which will change your body so this dress may not be the dress that will best fit you in a yr.
Don’t worry, you’ll find a dress for your special day. Focus on other aspects of your wedding and begin looking for a dress in a yr.
Post # 14
I would wait. So many people seem to find a dress, then keep looking, and regret what they have.
Post # 15
I would wait. If its the dress then you can always have someone custom make it when the time is right- in the right size. Usually that is a cheaper option in the first place.
Post # 16
I would wait. Styles change every year and you may like something next year. Your tastes will change once you really start planning. If I bought a dress when I first started to plan, I would have a huge ballgown with lots of pickups (that I’ve grown to dislike) and a long veil.
Now that we are really planning a wedding that is us, I’m going for a short dress with a colored birdcage veil.