- 5 years ago
- Wedding: November 2011
I’m the kind of person that LOVES Christmas and always go overboard but still within my budget. I also tend to buy presents for people w/o ever expecting anything in return.
My dilemma is if I should buy gifts for my grandparents (my dad’s parents.) They weren’t in my life growing up b/c my dad was military and we never saw them…which they also used as an excuse to never get us anything. The grandchildren that did live by them always got TONS of gifts for both their bdays and Christmas. My dad noticed this many years ago and essentially cut them out of our lives b/c he didn’t want us to be exposed to the favortism. Actually it was them not attending our highschool/college graduations that put him over the edge.
In the past few years, my mom reached out to them and they are part of our lives again. They even moved close to my parents b/c they needed to be closer to doctors and needed help with basic things…although they DO take advantage of her kind nature. They still favor my one uncle b/c of his poor life choices….and they favor his kids….buying them very expensive items including a car for graduation, etc.
I was told many years ago by them (I’m 36 now) that I was a grown-up and didn’t “need” bday presents anymore from them. So I have literally NOT received any bday/Christmas gifts from them in almost 20 years. My cousin is 19 and still receives stuff b/c he has a 2yo kid and according to them “he shouldn’t have to go without just b/c he has a kid.”
I’ve always assumed grandparents bought gifts for their grandkids for Christmas and not the other way around. So do I go out of my way to buy gifts and go spend money on shipping to send their gifts? You would think they’d feel bad that they were the ones getting the gifts when they didn’t get me and my sister anything but they don’t….