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I am so glad to see there is some other fellow PYSCHO's out there .... woo hoo for to the brides who bought there dresses first and didnt scare off there man!

I dont know maybe some of us just do things the unconventional way... Like i said my FH talks all of time of a July 2010 wedding even though he has yet to pop the question... so why not plan to be ready for a July 2010 wedding ? i know he has the ring we have talked about it.... I dont know why he hasnt asked yet... but i know he plans to....

Personally, I wouldn't do it...but that's just me.  I know when I finally went dres shopping, the first question I was asked was the wedding date.  I just would have felt awkward telling them there was no date especially knowing how some vendors think.  We were engaged on Valentine's Day and received some weird looks from vendors when we met with them around March.  Although we had a wedding date set, many vendors were quick to tell me it was too early to book.  Just imagine how oddly they would have looked at us if we told them we weren't even engaged.

I'm embarrassed to admit it, but I did. I haven't told my friends, I mean, look at the reactions on this board!

My BF and I have been talking about marriage, the ring is bought, but we're waiting for him to graduate. I bought my dress via WB. It's a sample, one of a kind and at an amazing price.

It also made my heart stop, I'm so in love with it. I already knew what my body shape looks good in, and when I slipped it on, I teared up it was so pretty. My BF knows about it, he's a deal-hunter himself so he was happy that I found my perfect dress at a perfect price- he said he'd be weirded out if I spent a lot of money on it than buying it early. Also- we're not the sentimental/superstious types. We like saving money.

I also had some bad bridal salon experiences as a bridesmaid and knew it wasn't for me. But that's just me. Everyone is different. I knew the risks I was taking coming in and I still love my dress and have never had second thought.

PS. Sure there is a chance we'd break up. However, how many poor engaged girls get their dresses and have to resell them? It's the same chance, a crappy relationship is a crappy relationship whether there is a dress or ring or not.

I don't think that we all have to agree to the nice coverall phrase "to each their own." I think that it's 100% ok for women to voice their opinion that buying a wedding gown before a proposal is an unwise thing to do.  You may be the exception to the rule, but I think that general advice still applies to the larger population.  As a woman who wasted a lot of time dreaming and planning a wedding before I was engaged, I can attest that this kind of behavior was detrimental to my relationship as it bred discontent and bitterness that Lambster wasn't ready yet.  My personal advice would be to focus on the here and now of your relationship and not to spend time in wedding dress shops unless you have an event date to wear it!

In general I would think that is pretty presumptuous, BUT I actually did it! Mr.Rain physically proposed in July, but we knew-- and had discussed-- since April that we were going to get married. My parents live overseas, and mom was here in the states for a few weeks in May and June, so he told me we could do any mom and daughter wedding prep we wanted to.

So yes, I bought the dress weeks before he proposed, but as even he will point out, even though he hadn't proposed we were basically already engaged.

Personally I believe it depends on the individual. I am a huge believer that you have to do what works for you and not what other people believe you to do.  I am also the product of parents where my mom proposed to my dad and FI and I are having a very non-traditional wedding and trust and believe had I found the dress, I would have bought it ring or no ring.

I find it amazing that the ring symbolizes a concrete committment because to me it is just a peice of jewelry. The symbolism and what I preserve is the question and the verbal committment we made to each other. Before I met the love of my life, I could have spewed off statistics and the 4 c's and demands of what I wanted and when I met him, before we officially announced, we knew and to me that is enough.  The ring is a symbol for the outside world and as far as i'm concerned, ring or no ring people always have an opinion about how YOUR life should be.

I think my problem with the girl in particular for the show was she never indiciated her guy was on board. They just happened to be in the neighborhood and she and the bff thought it would be fun.

I think it's sad that in this day and time there is such a huge value put on the ring, is it big enough, did he pay enough, it's silver not gold, platinum but not perfect-women actually feel bad because they associate value to the ring, men feel inadequate because they can not afford what they really want.

My best friend MARRIED her husband and never had a ring, because he couldn't afford it. 5 years into the marriage, he told her it was time and allowed her to go to the Cartier store in beverly hills and shop to her hearts content.  11 years and one 6 carat Cartier stone later, they are still happy b/c they built their marriage and relationship on something concrete and it wasn't on what everyone else thought.

Another point- because although I'm keeping my dress decision quiet from my friends, it pains me to see people using words like super crazy.

How is buying a dress so different from stalking a wedding blog? Having weddings on the mind is one thing, but there isn't a one-fits all approach. If your SO is on board, what's the big deal? There are so many worse circumstances I wouldn't want, like a crappy family situation, or not actually being ready. A dress is just a dress.

Here here ei laura! Good point! My boyfriend took a huge risk moving here to be with me... far more risk than me buying a dress.

The whole point of WB is to open our eyes to what other's think. Why is everyone so judgemental?

I'm a modern woman with a touch of superstitious - and I'd have to say no on this one.  I wouldn't be able to stop the "what if's" from entering my mind.

Plus, looking for a dress is a big thing, and something to look forward to.  I love all the different stages of planning a wedding - it gives me something to look forward to once I'm done with a stage.

I suppose if the talk of marriage has taken place, andthe girl is not being presumptious, it's ok? I personally would NEVER do that until I was officially engaged (I am very cautious).  I do think it would be presumptious of a girl if she buys a dress without at least a very serious marriage talk or a very strong impression that the bf WILL most likely propose, even if they've been together a long time, bought a house with bf, etc. etc.. Also, a lack of ring doesn't mean a couple aren't engaged.. The most important thing is the intent!

But yea, if I hear a girl just bought a dress before getting engaged, and there is nothing more facts to back up that story, I would think she's getting ahead of herself and a little bride-crazy.  It's just an opinion.  But it does seem like the posters here who did get a dress all did it because they were already pretty semi engaged.

People clearly aren't reading all the prior posts! I agree, there are circumstances when it can be crazy, but there are also plenty of us who are exceptions to that rule!

I am, apparently, the acception to many rules! We have known our wedding venue since we first started even discussing the possibility of marriage...

If you've talked about wedding venues, that shows an intention that you'll likely get married one day. It's implied!