Buying a dress without my mom there …

posted 3 years ago in Dress
Post # 2
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3709 posts
Sugar bee

I was there, when both of my daughters chose their wedding gowns, but I was paying for them. If I wasn’t, I wouldn’t care. It was 100% their decision anyway.

P.S. My 1st daughter got engaged after dating her husband for 8.5 years. They had ordered a custom designed ring, which took over a month to make. We went gown shopping, for the 1st time (and last – she made a decision within and hour), 2 weeks before the ring was completed.

Post # 3
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3941 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

futuremrshayes14:   I think honesty is the best policy.  You went ahead of the appt with your mom and bought a dress.  If your budget allows you could always get a second dress and sell the first, or have it as a reception dress.  

My mom was with me when I found my dress, and it does make it extra special for both of us.

I’d suggest telling her the truth – you know moms, they see right through us anyway.  LOL   

Post # 4
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2891 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

futuremrshayes14: I purposefully waited to go dress shopping with my mom and sister sowe could share that experience.  That said, you didn’t and now you have a dress that you love. Be open and honest with your mom. She might be hurt (hey, actions have consequences) but she might be so very excited for you. Would she be bothered by the deception of bringing the dress back and “finding” it? You know her best.

eta: I bought my dress without my mom, sisters or bridesmaids there. They did see it after and all think it’s gorgeous. No one cared. 

Post # 6
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219 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

futuremrshayes14:  Don’t return it!! I bet your mom will understand. She knows how exciting dress shopping can be and that you were excited to go. I would explain it exactly how you explained it here–you loved it, you didn’t want to risk losing it (especially at such a great price), but that you could exchange if you found something else. So now, with her, you are doing the “real” final dress shopping–is that the one or do you want a different one?  She still gets to be involved in the final decision….you just a made a reservation on one.

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