Post # 1
I officially think I am more stressed out over buying a house than planning a wedding! Between the two I am lucky if I sleep 3-4 hours a night and I am still 8 months our from the wedding!
For those of you, how many houses did you look at before you made the decision?
I keep putting off looking because I guess I am just nervous. Well my mother who is a real estate agent took me house shopping yesterday and I found a house I love! The house needs work but it is in the most perfect neighborhood that I would love to live in. The houses in this neighborhood never go on the market and when they do, they sell within a couple of days. FI is going to look at it tonight and then we’ll make the final decision.
Is is too soon since we just started looking? Does anyone have any advice or words of wisdom to ease my anxiety?
Post # 3
We just bought our first home a couple of months a go! It was very stressful and I also lost sleep. My best answer to your question is as many as it takes to find the perfect one!! If this is the one, then don’t feel like you need to look at more, you didn’t do that with your FI did you? 😉
Post # 4
I agree with Ottawa, if you find the house you love early one, good for you! I would worry too, and wonder if we saw enough, but when you walk into your future home, sometimes you just know! We did!
Post # 5
We looked at only about 4-5 before we found the one we wanted. First, we drove by a TON of them in our car and that’s how we picked which ones we wanted to see based on neighborhood and outside appearances. I think seeing one that first day is perfectly fine. I doubt that the homes will sell as fast in this market since there is a lot of inventory out there. Just make sure that you get an inspection and know what is coming before you close. Have you already been approved by a lender? Because that would help you to convince a seller to sell to you.
Post # 6
OttawaBride- I guess I’m just really nervous because as you know this is a very big step and I’m so nervous it won’t be the perfect decision. Guess you are right, I didn’t question the decision to marry him and that’s much bigger than a house =)
Post # 7
MissAsb- We drove by a ton and I wouldn’t even get out of the car, so I guess that’s how I narrowed the area down. Unfortunately where I am there are no houses on the market. I think most people who couldn’t sell took their houses off and remodeled. There are only 20 possible houses on the entire MLS listing with our criteria.
Everyone around me except my parents is either in the construction field, an inspector, or a civil engineer so I think I might just get a couple of people and bring them to get their opinions.
We did receive preapproval and have the downpayment, now it’s just biting the bullet and making the decision.
Post # 8
It sounds like you guys really liked it so I think you are just being nervous because it’s a big step. If you know, then you know!
Post # 9
I think it all depends on the two of you and what you want. If you already have certain things narrowed down (number of rooms? Garage? Yard? Flooring? Space?) & you’ve found something that already fits that criteria you should be okay. If you had no idea what you were looking for and just started looking then i’d say step back and look @ a few more. But it sounds like you already have an idea of what you want. My only suggestion is to go through the house a couple more times & definatly have a home inspection done. Just going through the house 2 or 3 times will help you decide for sure. & make sure there isn’t a lot of wasted space. That is something you don’t think about until after your living there & realize their’s some weird enterance room you can’t do anything with.
Good Luck! IT’s soo exciting!
Post # 10
Thanks girls! I just think the nerves are getting the better of me!
Post # 11
I know the exact feeling! I had asked the same question and got varying answers and was so nervous when the responders would say 60-80 houses. Yikes, no way I could do that! The city I was looking in had houses going like hotcakes. We would have a list of 6-10 to give the realtor and by the time she called, they were sold! All but 1. So, when we found our house, we knew we loved it and that we had to put in an offer that day. At that point, we had only gone into 6 or 8 houses (but looked at 100s online). I was a little nervous that it was so few, but you do know when you find it, it just clicks!
Good luck to you!
Post # 12
Call me crazy but we bought the first house we saw, we fell in love with it and it had EVERYTHING we wanted in a house. It is a new construction so the builder added/changed everything we told him to just for about 8,000.00 more we got, hard wood floors on the formal dinning room and formal living room, also the den, we got better carpet than the one they had on the rest of the house, got granite on both bathrooms, 2″ blinds all over the house, crown molding, washer and dryer…I mean it was a great deal!….We drove and looked online at houses but none of them had what we wanted and in the area so the 1st one we looked at we got and we LOOOOOVE it!
-NOW is the best time to buy a house, you can pick and ask for whatever you want, people want to get rid of houses quick so that’s a positive note 😉
Post # 13
Look at any house that tickles your fancy, even if it is over what you want to spend. It will help you get an idea of what you want and don’t want in your house/land. We looked at at least 10 houses, including drive-bys. If it’s the house, it’s the house, and you’re going to compare every other house to it, and they won’t hold up.
Definitely look into getting preapproved, it will help things move along faster.
Also, be careful about “needs a little TLC”. BF and I saw a listing for a house that, on paper, was just about everything we wanted (and cheap!). It even had a creek!
We drive up to it to look around and see if we want to schedule a viewing, and there’s a big ol’ sign on the door that says “REALTORS ENTER AT YOUR OWN RISK. HOUSE HAS MOLD.”
So now we joke that “needs a little TLC” means “needs flaming death”.
Post # 14
House hunting has been a two-year process for us. We have looked about 20-30 homes and we are still looking. It took some time for us to agree on areas and neighborhoods but I think we are FINALLY getting it. We have a few more houses to look at and we hope to close and be moved in before our wedding in May.
We did put on offer on the first house we saw but it wasn’t accepted. So it’s not crazy to go for the first house you see!
Post # 15
@surkin- Don’t you love the phrases they use. Needs a little TLC, Bring your imagination, Cozy, and the phrase of the day yesterday was “Thickly Settled Neighborhood”.
I am marrying someone who owns a construction company so I have a little bit of an advantage but since we are looking at houses to build onto and not tear down, we are very concered about the foundation.
At first I wanted this perfect house and realized I can’t afford it, so now I started looking at homes that I would be happy with in a great neighborhood. This house is a little small, but it’s only the two of us and is in pristine condition.
Post # 16
Even if you fall in love with the first house you see, you should still look at any comparable houses in the neighborhood that are for sale so you can be sure that you are paying what you should pay. It’s good to get an idea of the other houses in the neighborhood to see what remodeling people have done as well. You’ll get some good ideas (and see some bad ones!).