Buying a wedding dress YOU love vs. a dress FI would love

posted 3 years ago in Dress
  • poll: Did you buy the dress of YOUR dreams or HIS?
    I bought a dress that I know I would love, screw my FI, he better be lucky to have me show up at all : (81 votes)
    28 %
    I bought a dress that I know my FI would drool over despite it not being my favorite : (10 votes)
    4 %
    I think I found a dress that we both will love : (194 votes)
    68 %
  • Post # 3
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: September 2013

    He probably likes more than a princess ball gown.  I would have FI watch a few episodes of SYTD with me just to get an idea of what he hated, so I didn’t pick that.  FI and I had a similar style, so I didn’t really have this problem, but he didn’t have many opinions either.  He did tell me to get white (which I wanted also), but the dress I found only came in ivory, so I told him and he didn’t mind.  But honestly, I bet your FI won’t even notice what style of dress you are wearing.  He’ll just be looking at you and how beautiful you are.  Pick what makes you happy, you have to wear it all day. 

    Post # 4
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    4576 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: September 2014

    @MrsAgainstTheGrain:  I’ll get flamed, but I vote “both”. It’s his day too, and his first wedding, and I cannot think of anyone elses opinion on my dress I care about more than his and my own. When we bought my dress, he was with me. I’d wanted something HUGE and ballgown and pink or black and he was thinking a traditional white in a trendy mermaid style.

    We ended up finding my mermaid dress that has pink in the bottom. We both really love it and I’m glad he was so interested in helping me make that decision 🙂

     

    Post # 5
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    3199 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    @MrsAgainstTheGrain:  i asked my FI to send me dresses he loved before i went shopping, and he sent me photos of super-tight, mermaid dresses with poof and ruffles and things at the bottom.

    i tried those dresses on. i looked super hot in them but they were the most uncomfortable things. EVER. i could barely even sit down or bend over. not cool.

    i ended up with a lace, modified A-line/trumpet dress. still body-hugging, but without the boning from tip to toe and it is SO MUCH MORE COMFORTABLE. not what FI said he liked but i’ll bet you $1000000000 he wont even notice the dress when i’m coming down the aisle. 🙂

     

    Post # 6
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    3813 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: August 2013 - Brookfield Zoo

    While I definitely didn’t think “screw FI he’s lucky if I show up!!”, I bought a dress that I loved, really without FI’s opinion in mind.  Of course, he got to choose his entire ensemble as well!

    Post # 7
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    761 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: November 2012

    I just went for a dress that I loved. My Husband generally likes my style, so I didn’t even think to ask him what he would like to see me in.

    Post # 8
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    1629 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: January 2013

    Luckily DH and I both hate ballgowns. He wanted me in something more form fitting, I was self conscious of my hips and told him I’d probably end up in something sexy ontop but more of an a-line fit so he just had to start getting used to the idea since I didn’t want to feel self conscious on my wedding day…and then I went dress shopping and realized the form fitting dresses looked AMAZING on (it’s amazing how a well-structured gown will fit vs some clingy cheap tight clubwear, lol). I bought a fit and flare and came home and said “well, you win”

    Post # 9
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    108 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    I don’t think most guys think about it enough to really give you a good idea of what they like. When I asked my FI what he liked, he said he wasn’t really into big poofy dresses and that he thought he would like something a little more form fitting. However, when I got online and started showing him different dresses, he thought the form fitting ones were very pretty until he saw the ballgown that I am absolutely in love with (but I didnt tell him that) and he actually said that he liked it better than the others.

    Post # 10
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    582 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: May 2015

    Regardless of what he thinks now, I feel like he’s going to love the dress you pick.  IMO you should get what you like and feel comfortable in, because you have to wear it.  He loves you (or should) regarless of what you’re wearing.

    Post # 11
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: May 2013

    @MrsAgainstTheGrain:  i picked a dress i love, DH never would have picked it, BUT he LOVED my dress.  i am considering selling it and he doesn’t want me too. lol 🙂

    Post # 12
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    218 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: May 2013

    I picked the dress I loved and, lucky me, DH loved it as much as I did :).

     

    Post # 13
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    609 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: February 2014

    Before I went dress shopping, I asked FI what he liked – all he said was sleeves. I agreed cause I don’t like my arms. I bought a dress that I loved, but it wouldn’t look nice with a bolero. He’s ok with the fact that it won’t have sleeves because as he says, I’ll look beautiful to him regardless of what I’m wearing. He just wants to marry me.

    Damn! I lucked out with an awesome man.

    Post # 14
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    173 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: October 2014

    I bought a dress that is both my style and my FI’s, he doesn’t particularly like “poofy” ballgowns (there was a Vera Wang ballgown I was in love with, luckily my mom and sister are vocal when they dislike something) but the dress I got now I absolutely ADORE.  I’ve never seen a wedding dress like it (seriously, not the “unique” everyone gets, no offense… it doesn’t even look like a “wedding” dress other than the color).  I have been leading the FI on though (and so has everyone else) about how “big and giant” my ballgown is, he is going to be more than pleasantly surprised haha!!! My dress is by no means a ballgown XD. 

    Post # 15
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    146 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: April 2013

    We both loved my dress but when picking out a dress I was focused on what he would like, he’s the one I wanted to impress in the dress, the one I wanted to be smitten when he saw me etc so his opinion on the dress made all the difference. He didn’t see the dress ahead of time but I showed him different types of dresses and went with the style he liked

    Post # 16
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    146 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: April 2013

    @MrsMittansJohnson:  Haha I told my husband mine had a bunch of colors in it and was very poofy. When I got up to the Alter he made a comment about “I thought there were a lot of colors in your dress” lol it’s fun to mess with them

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