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    misscoffee    July 9, 2011   Houston

    I have one bridemaid who got married two years ago, and their parents purchased the bridesmaid dresses (I paid to get it hemmed).  I have another bridesmaid whose parents purchased the dresses, but she called off the wedding 3 months before (so they still have all the dresses - damn no return policies!!)  I know the general policy is that the bridesmaids pay for their own dresses, and I'm not obligated to buy their bridesmaid dresses, but should I?  And if so, how do I go about paying for some dresses but not others??

    If it helps, here's the link to the dress:

    http://shop.nordstrom.com/S/3131241?origin=PredictiveSearch&resultback=3390

    The dresses are very reasonably priced, which was a major selling point for me.  Definitely cheaper than the dresses either bridesmaid paid for for me to wear.  As much as I'd love to, paying for everyone's dresses is probably out of the question budget-wise.  I just don't want to hurt any feelings!!

     
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    BlueChampagne    June 2011   NY

    I think this depends on your budget.  If you are able to pay for the dresses, I think you should.  We worked BM dresses into our budgets from the beginning.  If this is something youre able to do, I personally believe you should.

    As far as paying for some and not others, I wouldn't.  Pay for all or none.  You know the girls will talk to each other and if someone finds out they paid and another did not, you will have more stress than you need.

    I would ask them their sizes and just buy them all in one big purchase.

     
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    ktbrady    October 29, 2011   North Carolina

    I have always paid for my own bridesmaid dresses, and do not plan on paying for the girls' dresses in my wedding.

     
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    sboston06    October 10, 2010   Boston area

    It is definitely not a requirement to pay for the bridesmaid dresses.  That dress is really pretty and affordable so I don't think you should feel guilty at all about having them pay for it.  DO NOT pay for some and not others.  There is no way that will end well.  If one is having trouble paying for it, you can loan her the money behind closed doors, but don't let the others know.

    One of my bridesmaids bought my dress for her wedding too and I just wasn't able to buy hers for mine.  I don't think anyone accepts to being a bridesmaid and then expects the bride to cover the dress.

     

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