Buying cars together– sort of a spin-off!!

posted 3 years ago in The Lounge
Post # 2
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

We only have 1 car and it’s FI’s. He chose the car, but I was 100% on board with what he picked. If I hadn’t been…well, I don’t know. I like to think we would have looked for something we both liked (he drives every day, but I use the car whenever I need it). Obviously, in the end, he was paying for it, so his choice mattered more than mine would have. Also, we weren’t even engaged then. I think that when we’re married, those choices would be more 50/50, but the person who will primarily driving the car will likely get the final say.

Post # 3
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 2014

We haven’t come across this yet. We both had cars before we bought our house and created a joint bank account. I know he hates my sports car for its impracticality and says he won’t ever let me get another one though 🙁 

Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2014 - Turf Valley

We had a discussion on which car we both wanted, and found one that was a compromise.  

Post # 5
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2014 - Excalibur

I’ll be looking for a crossover soon and be giving my FI my car. He knows I’m not an extravagant person and would only buy what I could afford so he doesn’t care what I buy.  We won’t be combining finances but either way, a car is such a big purchase, Ithink that’s something a couple should discuss. 

Post # 6
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

We’re going through this right now! FI has been through 4 vechiles since we’ve been together and I’ve helped pick out the three he bought when we were dating. He always gives me the spare key to the car/truck and I have free range to drive it whenever, no need to ask. He’s actually selling his nice truck now since he has a company vehicle and doesn’t need it, to buy me a new car. Since he’s the one paying, he gets say on the price, etc but I get to pick the kind of car within his rules (can’t be foreign, good gas mileage, family car, safety, etc). So right now he has more overall say since he makes more than me (full time grad student) but I’ll get to choose my own vehicles within reason when I graduate and he does take my opinions into consideration for his vehicles as well. We go look at cars together and everything so it’s fairly mutual I guess. 

Post # 7
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

Definitely a joint decision.

Post # 8
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2013

Since my husband bought “his” car while we were only dating, I obviously didn’t have a say although I did encourage him to buy it. Since we were married once it came time to buy “my” new car, I did take his opinions into consideration. However, since this vehicle was going to be driven primarily by me, my opinions were weighted more. We both thought that was fair. Turns out I got a car that we both loved.

Post # 10
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2014 - A castle!

MrsEME:  I bought my DH a manual as an engagement/wedding present. Annnd I can’t drive it. I’m hoping to have the time for him to teach me this summer. I wanted to get the automatic, but he loves manuals. If it wasn’t like $2k cheaper I would’ve sprung for the automatic, but whatevs. He loves it.. that’s all that mattered to me.

Post # 11
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Busy bee

We discuss it but ultimately we each get what we want. If one of us had a strong opinion either way we would consider it. We’re both ‘into’ cars so it’s important to us.

Post # 12
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2011 - Bed & Breakfast

It’s a $30k decision. How can that NOT be made jointly? We were engaged when we purchased our current vehicles, and we each had equal input on the purchases.

Post # 13
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

We got engaged about 5 months after I bought my current car.  So FI did not get a say in what I picked, although I am very frugal and practical, so I wasn’t buying something he would have any reason to object to anyway!  He doesn’t have a car, but he can use mine when he needs to.  If he decided to purchase one at any point going forward I would expect it to be a joint decision in terms of finances and practicality, but if he was considering two cars at the same price and similar features (so two sedans/SUVs, whatever, not a sedan vs. the crazy two seater sports car he really wants but would not be useful in our lifestyle!) he would be able to choose which he wanted as he’s the one who would be driving it most! I would hope the same would apply to me whenever my new car needs to be replaced.

Post # 14
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

The decision on our vehicles kind of made themselves..

When my car went caput, we needed a bigger vehicle to hold our new family, and we also live somewhere where 4WD is required, so I got a used CRV.

DH needed a work truck powerful enough to pull his work trailer..so we had to get a truck based on that need. lol

DH’s truck is the only vehicle we have ever bought new. Any future vehicles (especially for me) will always be used.

Post # 15
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Sugar bee

FI and I just went through this debate.  We bought a convertible a couple of weeks ago as our third car.  Originally, we had decided to sell my car and use the proceeds to buy a fun car for the weekends (we carpool and usually only drive his car on weekdays).  

Then, the discussion turned to whether to get a manual or not.  Both of our current cars are autos.  FI thinks that it would be more fun to have a manual on a weekend car, but I have…issues with manual and have only recently gotten comfortable with it.  I didn’t want a manual for the alternate car because that would leave only one car as a viable one for me to drive when I needed it.  We actually found a compromise – we kept my car and bought a very cheap older convertible with a manual.  That way, we have 2 cars which could be used daily by either of us, and a fun car that can be used if we want to take it out on weekends.  Also since it’s an older car, I can learn manual on it and not worry too much.  This has been the first time we have bought a car together, so it has been a learning experience for both of us.

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